My boyfriend is mad because i asked him if he was in love with his best friend because we were arguing once and he had said that he did love her and he was drunk. Then a couple of days later he said that he just said that to get me mad. So i needed to know and now hes mad. How do i know if he is truly in love with me or with her?
2006-09-28 05:18:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Listen to your heart and watch his actions. Be true to yourself and check if he for instance prefers to spend time with her than you, if he acts like a'puppy' around her, does he treat you differently when she's around?. I think people say what's really on their mind when they are upset. Maybe he's not cheated with her but he's really in love with her and would if she gave him a chance.
Chances are he really just said it to make you 'mad' but that was very insensitive. My best friend all my life has been a male(since pre-school) so its possible he's not in love with her.
You have th right to be mad (and hurt) not him.
Since only you know the intimate details of your relationship(and his with her), only you can really decide if its the truth. Don't jump to any conclusions but don't be a fool either.
All the best.
2006-09-28 05:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is telling a lie:
Their eye movements give them away (http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies_eyes.php)
There are other body movements that give them away (http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies.php) and (http://content.monster.com/martynemko/articles/archive/lying/)
However... all that said:
committed - adj
1: bound or obligated, as under a pledge to a particular cause, action, or attitude
2: associated in an exclusive sexual relationship [syn: attached]
relationship - noun
1.a connection, association, or involvement.
2.connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3.an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.
4.a sexual involvement; affair.
friendship – noun
1.the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship.
2.a friendly relation or intimacy.
3.friendly feeling or disposition.
When someone is in a "committed relationship" (like b/f & g/f), they should no longer persue active friendships with the opposite sex. Why? because the only reason that men persue a "friendship" with a woman is 1) because she is attractive and 2) because they want to have sex with them. Women, if you don't believe me try this. Ask one of your male "friends" out to dinner and over dinner ask them if they find you attractive - after they say yes, ask them if they would like to sleep with you (a no strings attached thing as you still want to keep them as a friend).
Now if he has had this "best friend" since he was little then yeah.. maybe its platonic.. but that very seldom happens...
That said, if your "significant other" is always hanging out with this "best friend" they are telling you that their level of "committment" and yours to your "relationship" is not the same and there needs to be some sort of discussion that goes something like this: "I'd like to take this to the next level and become and exclusive couple in that we are only intimate with each other (monogomous).. what do you think" - the important part of this converstation is to get an agreement from the other person. IF YOU DON'T then you are NOT in a monogmous relationship!!!!! (ie you are still free to date others folks and the whole "committed relationship" doesn't exist).
so.. help all of this helps!
2006-09-28 12:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is going to sound kinda wierd but i just learned this in a Psychology class i took. here it goes; If someone is lying thier eyes will look up and to the left if they are making up the answer. The reason why is because that is the imagination center of the brain. They are litterally "looking" for an answer that isn't there. But if he has planned out the answer he is going to give you, even if it is a lie, he may not do that because it will be stored in a different part of the brain. Catch him off guard and watch his eyes. Otherwise you will just have to rely on your gut.
Good luck
2006-09-28 12:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real way to know at this point. It's not good to ask questions that will drive you crazy wondering when it comes down to a man. If he is with you then that's all that should matter therefore he must care about you and want to be with you. Just forget about this whole thing and move past it before this ends up pushing you and him a part.
2006-09-28 12:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love you both. I love my man, and my best guy friend, just in different way. A friendly love, and a deep romantic love. He's allowed to love his friend.
2006-09-28 12:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a female best friend huh lol
2006-09-28 12:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by forbidnfruit_420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋