Please be totally honest.
2006-09-28 05:10:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Possible yes, desirable from your point of view no....The real question is why does he need to maintain a friendship with her when he has you in his life? If he really loves you and this relationship with her hurts you then he should be willing to give it up.
2006-09-28 05:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those questions that you have to answer with the "It Depends".
While it is possible for them to just be friends now ow they handle that is all telling.
He has you now so you would think no more need to be her lover again. Does she have someone? If not I think you know she may very well become interested in him again. Not a given but possible. I can tell you this....no matter what his feelings about your and her are if she begins to come on to him again it will be very hard for him to not pay attention. They were lovers.
Why did it break up? Were you why? If so you better look out girl.
only way to know for sure is to sit him down and talk to him about this.
I am friends with my ex wife. However my current wife never has trusted her...and at first me. Part of the reason is I was not the reason we broke up. She found someone else that she thought better. I have tried to tell my current wife that the pain she put me though would never allow me to go back. I could never trust her again.
But that is me. Where are you in your relationship and you will have your answer.
2006-09-28 12:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible as long as all three of you are on the same page of it.. Like he makes sure that he informs his ex that he can only be her friend and if she can not respect that then there is no room for her in his relationships... as well you need to ask yourself if you trust your man enough to do this... if you do not or even if you do the two of you need to sit down and talk about it so that you get all your concerns on the table and resolved.....
2006-09-28 12:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by William B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 'just friends' with an ex. Believe me, I wouldn't ever be anything more. The man I am with now is far too precious and knows he means everything to me.
If you are secure in your relationship, you must have trust. Not to test the trust, but to understand that it is there, along with respect and honesty.
She is his ex for a reason, though friendship can endure a break up...
2006-09-28 12:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by CC...x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its possible but highly unlikely.
If he can keep the conversations short and just friendly. Its doable. But the moment it turns into a rehash of relationship up/downs it need to stop.
People sometimes have an issue keeping lines drawn with exes.
Also if he has gone the extra mile to assure you that there aren't any ISSUES between the two of them then drop it.
But if it looks like duck, quack likes a duck, then it is a duck.
2006-09-28 12:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not possible. When my boyfriend and I were split up, he told me that the sex we have is so amazing, he'd still be comming over for more even if he was with someone else. That longing will never go away. And if they stay friends it's usually because they aren't really ready to let go. They need that person to stay in their life in case a what if? pops into their mind. They need them there as a rebound just in case. So tak to him about it. If he isn't willing to quit talking to her even though it bugs you, split. Because nothing good will come from that
2006-09-28 12:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. You just need to know where she stands on things. If he is friends with your man, be nice and get to know her. Then you can find out what she really wants. She is really a friend if you and him and her can hang out together. But, yes, it is very possible to be friends with an ex.
2006-09-28 12:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking for myself, I am still seeing my ex for drinks and chats, thinking we can stay clean as friends only. But I don't know how long it will last?
Deep inside me still hoping that something can happen on bed one day. I think she has feeling too and trying to avoid me to meet in private and romantic places. What do you think I can do to advance the relationship to my dream since life are short and we both have feel!?
2006-09-28 12:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by highdesire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its flat out easier for a woman to be "Just friends" then a man. I think its because men tend to be looking for sex, and women tend to look for love. If the relationship is over in a womans eyes, then so is the emotiional part of it, which women tend to equate to sex. With men, who dont tend not to associate sex with emotion as much, they will be still interested in the sexual aspect of the relationship after its over. Where for the women, once the emotion shuts down so does the sex. So for men, a friend is someone who is or has rejected their sexual advances, specifically in a ex-lover relationship, and it will be harder to be friends with them. For women it is easier to look for other aspects of the relationship to enjoy, withouth there be sex involved, so for women it is easier to be friends.
2006-09-28 12:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by billyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more than possible. I'm very good friends with one of my exboyfriends, but that's all we are. My fiance is good friends with one of his exes, but there's nothing more to it than that. This is an issue of trust. If you don't feel like you can trust him to "just be friends" then maybe you should consider ending things.
2006-09-28 12:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋