My really close friend, who i like and who knew i liked him, dropped out of school and ever since I've been nagging him about it. I dont think its right to screw up your life and drop out but he supposedly has a reason he dropped out. It isnt a family problem...he just hates people at school. I got mad at him and refused to talk to him for several weeks. I'm kind of okay with the whole situation now but still think it's wrong for him to drop out. He told me that i was the only one who cared if he dropped out or not. Is it wrong that I cared or was I just selfish about letting him go?
2006-09-28 05:05:34 · 16 answers · asked by Snap Skittles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds like a complete weakling and worthless human bieng to drop out just because he didn't like people. The world is a tough place and if he can't handle it then he is just destined to be a ditch digger or janitor. The world needs these kinds of loosers too. I suggest you just not talk to him anymore so you don't waste your time on someone who isn't worth it and isn't going to amount to anything. He will pull you down too.
2006-09-28 05:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all, but it's a wee bit selfish. Not that there's anything wrong with that!
You cant make him live his life to suit you, but you can be supportive. Instead of nagging, be sneaky by letting him know what he's missing. You don't know, maybe dropping out was the best thing for him. He can always get a GED and proceed from there.
2006-09-28 12:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by Muffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that anyone who truly cares about their friend would have felt the same way. I think it's sad he dropped out of school but if that's what he chooses then that's his problem and not yours. All you can do is just be there for him and be his friend. Perhaps down the road you might want to motivate him to go back to school to better himself. I think you're a good friend for caring.
2006-09-28 12:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish of you to be concern about his well being or his future for that matter. Dropping out of school leaves little options in the future as far as occupation is concerned.
Essentially he was the one at fault. His excuse is a poor one. All adolescents are subjected to some sort of humiliation or torment in their peer groups, but it's no excuse to drop out--how I see it, he is giving up--giving up on you and his future.
Help him understand it's not late to return to school and start a new. Ensure him you will be by his side.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-28 12:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo Medic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK... if he doesn't want to go back to High School then have him get his GED and then go on to College..
No, you are not wrong for caring and he is being short sighted... There are a lot of jobs that require a College degree.... How is he going to support a wife and family without a High School degree? He may not be thinking about the rest of his life, so you bring it up for him.
2006-09-28 12:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking out for someones best interests when they wont do it themselves is never a bad thing - you were being a good friend. You can't chose his life path for him, but you can encourage him the best you can. Refusing to talk to him probably gave you some space to think about things - don't feel guilty. Be a living example of a good path and hope he comes around - though it's not your fault if he doesn't. We all have to make our own path. Good luck
2006-09-28 12:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Blair T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to care .. of course! However, after you tell him how you feel about it .. then it is his decision. You can't nag a person into doing anything. If he doesn't want to go .. he won't go. Then it is your choice if you still want him as a friend or not . You can only control YOUR end of it. Not his. Good Luck! :)
2006-09-28 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were absolutely right about his dropping out. For the sake of his future you might suggest a different or alternative school. Without a decent education today he'll have no future at all!! :-)=
2006-09-28 12:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there & done that! No joke (my husband was that boy & We were crazy about each other & just never expressed it with each other). Be up front & honest with yourself - then share how you feel with him (like him ect). Then explain you care/worry about him (he's already getting that). Be his friend no matter what - life is 2 short 2 chance it because you disagree. Do you always listen & obey your parents? Do you ever feel like your parents get on your case? Don't make him feel that way.Nobody is perfect - remember that! Good luck!
2006-09-28 12:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you were being selfish. You care because you are a good friend and see he is making a mistake by quitting school
2006-09-28 12:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋