6 months ago(long time) a guy that I've known for many years(we were good friends) ask me to be his girlfriend....and I've said him no...I've only want to be his friend(not lover)....he has sufered a period of time and I'm sorry for that....now he had another girlfriend and I know he don't love her.....now I feel I love him...maybe I love him since then....I don't know what to do....I need an advice..please help me
2006-09-28 05:04:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, that is a very typical feeling, you liked the attention you were receiving. We all like attention even if we don't return it. You are not bad just human. Now you want the attention back. Let him lead his life, be happy for him, maybe he is in love. You just stay out of the way and go try to find you someone to love. I know people are going to say you are selfish, don't listen. You are experienceing very normal feelings, you just have to recognize it and don't act on the impulse to go to him or you will be miserable as he will in the long run.
2006-09-28 05:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was really love, then you would've said yes the first time he asked you, without a doubt, without a hesitation.
Let it go for now, and remain only friends, and see what might happen one day; maybe you'll realize the difference between true love and friendship love.
One day he'll break up with her and you'll be there, your love matured and ready.
2006-09-28 12:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you only feel that way b/c he is no longer interested in you. It's 'you want what you can't have' syndrome. We all suffer from it at some point in our lives. If you think you have feelings for him, step aside and see if they persist, they may be just b/c he is no longer pining over you. If he's happy with his other girlfriend, i wouldn't dare say anything b/c he could end up resenting you in the long run. Just my advice. Good luck
2006-09-28 12:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Weasel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems to be like you had it but you lost it, right. Ok, so if I were you I'll tell him that I love it, but if that's too hard for you. Go out (or pretend to like him) with another guy to make your love jealous and hopefully he'll go back with you,
2006-09-28 12:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to make sure, be with him for one time, perhaps a kiss will be a good sign to tell if you're truly love him or it's just a feeling of sorrow.
2006-09-28 12:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by themysterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him now because he's out of reach. If you loved him, you would have accepted his request earlier. Don't use him - that would be mean. It could also ruin your friendship.
2006-09-28 12:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself, do you really like (love) him or do you just want what you can't have? don't make any hasty decisions right now. give it a little time then see how you feel.
2006-09-28 12:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by goddess1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you like him now cause he has someone else!!! wait till he doesn't have a girlfriend and see if you still like him and tell him then.
2006-09-28 12:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him with his gf whether he luvs him or not... he'll decide himself whether he has to leave her or not... dont provoke him to do so...
2006-09-28 12:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋