I decided to clear my heart with an old friend, my boyfriend took it in a negative way and moved out. A few days later I told him we can move forward in our relationship because I've taken care of old business. He had already promised his ex he would give her another chance and now he feels he has to stick with that because he gave her his word. He's actually in love with me but won't break his word to the ex. She propose to him, he accepted and they're getting married in 3 weeks. He won't stay away from me. He calls, texts, everyday confessing his love to me. I love him and it hurts because I know he really loves me.
2006-09-28 04:58:29 · 12 answers · asked by sqeaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From the outside looking in: Love just like hate is a decision! He has made his decision, he's getting married. No one has to do what they don't want to do. Think about it, if he really loved you nothing could keep him from you. So all the e-mails,texts and phone calls are phony! He is playing a game and he's playing it with you and himself. You deserve your own man someone comitted to you. Cut off all calls and communication with him. Get your Sex in the City like girlfriends, spend time with them, your family, volunteer, do something difficult for you to do. But occupy your self as time and distance eases the discomfort of not having him.
2006-09-28 05:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, two things come to mind about all of this. First, he doesn't love you because he accepted the proposal. The excuse of him not wanting to break his promise to her is lame. If someone really loves someone, then they would go to all extents to try to be with that person, and would not let anything get in the way. Second, he feels that by saying he loves you and things like that, he can keep you on the "side" whenever he needs someone else besides his fiance. All he's doing is putting things in your head so that you will not fall for anyone else. He is being greedy, and wants to have both of you for himself. He needs to realize what he's doing, and you need to realize if you can really love someone that is doing this to you. If he really loved you, he should be straight out with his fiance and tell her that he still loves you and cannot go through with the marriage. If he's made up his mind about going through with the marriage, then it's up to you to move on and forget about it, as hard as it may seem.
2006-09-28 12:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by a.valdes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. I'm kind of in the same dilemma as you are in some possible way. You may not believe me because I am only 15 but I can try to help. If you know he loves you, and you love him and nothing's happening between you two... you need to take the action. Do you want to spend your life with him, Do you know that he wants to spend his life with you? based from my perspective and my own personal experience I'm pretty sure you do. Here's my advice but once again since I'm only 15 you don't have to accept it. You need to go past all of the text messages and everything else he has sent you,tell him that you need to talk to him in person and that it's very important. When you get the chance, once again tell him how much you love him and ask him if it's important to him. Tell him that if he really loves you like he portrays in all of his messages and so on then he needs to make a choice. Ask him if he really loves you and who truly makes him happy. I know it's hard going through this but if that's really what you want in your life is him then you need to confront him and tell him that, and tell him to make his choice. He says he loves you that much then he needs to prove it in more than just telling you so. "People usually end up sad in life because they surrender what they want most for what they want now" And if he won't go back with you then there's only one thing you can do. If you truly love him let him go be happy, but never let go of him in your heart. Always be there for him when ever he needs you... never give up on him and just give him time. If you truly love him you'll be able to do so.
2006-09-28 12:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by ¥Captain_Random¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from him, he tells you he loves you and wants to be with you but he is going to marry her? that sounds like he ether has some serious problems, or he just wants to keep you on the side. Don't lower yourself to that level.
When he contacts you again, tell him he can not have his wedding cake and you to. he needs to choose, If he chooses to marry her, you need to respect that decision and leave that thing alone.
2006-09-28 12:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you then he wouldnt care what he told his ex. It sounds like he is playing the both of you. You should be the bigger woman, and realize that you deserve better than this guy.
2006-09-28 12:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by AndBabymakes4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-20 05:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound ridiculous that he is willing to marry someone he doesn't love simply because he doesn't want to break his word to her.
2006-09-28 12:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wish them well, because if he left you for her, then he will leave her for someone else. move on with your life and let go of him, because you can't move forward in the future until you let go of your past. good luck!!
2006-09-28 12:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he REALLY loved you he wouldnt be marrying another JUST because he gave her his word...the whole excuse is absolutely RIDICULOUS!!!
2006-09-28 12:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on Jerry Springer and duke it out.
2006-09-28 12:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋