I recently found out that I'm pregnant. I haven't told the father yet, but we had already decided to get married before it happened. This wouldn't seem like a big problem but for the fact that he's in the military and will be leaving for a year tour in Iraq in March- right around the time the baby will be born. How do you tell a guy that they're going to have a child that they won't get to see for the first year of it's life?
2006-09-28 04:52:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Awwww, that would be hard, but it is the right thing to do, and he should know and will be very happy I am sure.
There may even be a possibility of being re assigned if told soon enough, you never know right?
Congrats and best of luck
2006-09-28 04:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. If you love each other enough to get married, endure a year apart for the military, and make a baby together ... then you love each other enough to be up-front with each other. When he gets home today, talk to him. "Honey, I wasn't feeling quite right so I went to the doctor today. The doctor did some tests and I found out that I'm prgnant. We're going to have a baby, and the due date is about ______, 2008."
2006-09-28 04:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the right to know. You are both in love so its not that difficult to tell. Things will work out fine. Congratulations and best wishes.
2006-09-28 04:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yest tell him what happened and that you will wait for him but if hi is a military hi will be strong and must except it but i which you the best and the baby and your husband in this not fair time
2006-09-28 05:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by sander o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece is in the same situation. She is going to video tape the birth for him and send him tapes on a weekly basis.It's very hard for military families,but with love it works out.Thank you and your fiance for your sacrifice.
2006-09-28 04:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he now has bigger responsibilities than fighting in a completely pointless war. Force him to quit the army to be a good father.
2006-09-28 04:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by james44_20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say we have to talk, that implicates something bad is about to happen. Just come straight out and say it. This should be something joyful. No matter how in convienent this is to you or your lifestyle. It'll be worth it.
2006-09-28 04:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your both mature enough you will deal through it. It will be hard I cant imagine what your going through but constantly remind your child of his/her daddy while they grow and show pictures. he will have alot of catching up to do when he gets back.. My god be with you and your family.
2006-09-28 04:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth.Its power itself
2006-09-28 05:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by pritam d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you have phrased your question seems as you intend to tell your father
2006-09-28 04:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by knightgown_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋