when we were growing up he was the meticulous one, very stingy and organised, in school i was very brilliant but frivorous, i loved parties and girls, he didn't, after school i went into biz, i took them all by surprise and started making money, my brother swallowed his pride and proposed to join the biz and become a patner, i accepted. we started making a lot of money together but because of our differences (i was extravagant while he was prudent) we couldn't go along together, and since he was older than me he wanted to be in charge, we had to split. I retained the biz and he moved off to setup elsewhere. Today, 7 yrs after we split i'll sincerely say that he is a better biz man that me, i have two very successful offices, he has 4. I have no prob with that, but recently in a family gathering we were discussing monetary issues and i tried to advice him, he shocked me by blurting out that he has noticed that i'm jealous of him and green with envy, this is not true, what should i do?
2006-09-28 04:46:10 · 7 answers · asked by rickybellanco 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
There are probably some aspects about you that he envies and is projecting on you. Next time he says something ask him why he feels that way - that you are happy he is successful.
2006-09-28 04:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by mei-lin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, its his problem, not yours. Don't worry about it. I've had similar experiences. I'm the oldest of 3 and the most educated, but I make less money. I chose a life of service in a field that does not pay well. I find my younger siblings acting as thought my opinions and advise are not good enough for them and that what I say must be taken with salt. After all, I am not as "successful" as they. Yet, once they are dead and gone, their money stays here. When I'm dead and gone, the lives I've touched in education and ministry will continue on to touch other lives throughout eternity. So, who is having the greatest impact?
The point being, your brother has the problem with perception, not you. Let it go and be your own self. As the old adage says, "To thy own self be true". You're great and obviously a caring person. Enjoy your success.
2006-09-28 04:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by William T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my perspective, you are the one that have an insecure problem. Don't be so sensitive on this matter, just get it over with and if you are very succesful bussisnessman and try to help by giving an advice and the people you giving out advice won't take it, it's up to them.
People tend to think that their advice is the best answer for every solution (especially if they think they are on top) but then if their proposal get rejected, they then try to justified by saying that others are not as lucky - (smart/rich/whatever you could call)- as they are.
Just like my answer here, whether you like it or not this is my advice to you. And i'm not bragging but just be a realistic ... He is still your older brother anyway, right ? that you will die for him if he is run into troubles ....
2006-09-28 05:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by trademefx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur not jealous of him then u don't have to do anything. Maybe he perceived your approach(when u adviced him) as a sign of jealousy. Try changing ur style of approach. Ask him for some advice first then maybe he'd accept urs.
2006-09-28 04:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by lanisoderberg69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I know is - NEVER do business with family. Noone wins.
2006-09-28 05:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by jdavis4_17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get over himself. Just say, I'm doing well on my own, thanks, I don't need or want to compete with you. I'm happy for you and your successes, and me for mine.
2006-09-28 04:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulate him on every thing he succeeds in and support him on his decisions
he'll get over it and so will you
2006-09-28 05:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋