when we were growing up he was the meticulous one, very stingy and organised, in school i was very brilliant but frivorous, i loved parties and girls, he didn't, after school i went into biz, i took them all by surprise and started making money, my brother swallowed his pride and proposed to join the biz and become a patner, i accepted. we started making a lot of money together but because of our differences (i was extravagant while he was prudent) we couldn't go along together, and since he was older than me he wanted to be in charge, we had to split. I retained the biz and he moved off to setup elsewhere. Today, 7 yrs after we split i'll sincerely say that he is a better biz man that me, i have two very successful offices, he has 4. I have no prob with that, but recently in a family gathering we were discussing monetary issues and i tried to advice him, he shocked me by blurting out that he has noticed that i'm jealous of him and green with envy, this is not true, what should i do?
2006-09-28 04:36:49 · 14 answers · asked by rickybellanco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your brother made such a big deal out of pointing out that you were jealous of him, its probably because he's jealous of you. Maybe not just the business part of your lives, but because you have always been smart and had fun at the same time. I don't think you need to prove anything to him. Just keep being yourself.
2006-09-28 04:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe go talk to him - tell him you're not jealous, you're happy for him. He is a better business man than you and it is no wonder he has more offices. But you are a good business man too and he should know that you might have an angle on a problem that he could use your insite on. Tell him - we are brothers - we should help each other out if we can. There is no jealousies - tell him your happy he is successful and has accomplished everything that he has. You're happy that he is not broke or suffering in a bad job or whatever other hand life could give him.
Sometimes you have to humble yourself and go talk to the person who is obviously in the wrong and make ammends before this thing gets worse than it already is. You'll be the bigger man if you go and work this out with him... Good luck.
2006-09-28 11:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older brothers always try and make you feel inferior. Just do your own thing. I do. It's a dominance thing for them.
One of my big regrets in life is that I meekly followed in my brother's shadow trying to compete with him. In reality I had different skills and should have been myself. That's my general advice to all younger brothers.
My older brother had the nerve to tell me that he felt guilty about being such a success in life because it made my achievements look small by comparison! I could have retaliated by saying yes but I'm much better looking than you but I'm not petty so I said nothing.
2006-09-28 11:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the people that know you well, know you are not jealous. I was in a similar situation with my sister. I told her "I am sorry you feel that way, however you are wrong, I am proud of you and hope we can have a relationship after you get over these childish feelings towards me." We are close now. Only took her a year to call.
2006-09-28 11:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him, "Actually I am very proud of your success in your business ventures, but not so much with your attitude". Let him know that you were just trying to give him brotherly advice and that you sincerely wish him continued success. Then just let it go; you can talk to some people until you are blue in the face and it won't change their opinion. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 11:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I sense a really good tv series on Fox! Sounds dysfunctional to me. When my sister succeeds, I'm happy for her, I don't feel jealous at all. Just figure out what you need find happiness for yourself and be happy for your bro'. Life's too short to be petty.
2006-09-28 11:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by babalu2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, don't do anything at all...If you try to prove that you are not jealous of him or his success, then it will only make his point look more valid. Chances are, he is probably jealous of you free spirit and ability to just do what you want...
2006-09-28 11:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these things are in the family in every family.
You just take of yourself
rest you ignore for the time to come to understand your feelings..
2006-09-28 11:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that is jusy mean of yur brother to treat u that way so i think you should just talk 2 him alone and make him believ straight out that your not jealous just sick of him thinking hes the better sibling !!!!!!!!
good luck with business
2006-09-28 11:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by hannah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing.. He is the one that brought it up. He is the one who is jealous. He says that to make himself feel more important. You know who you are and what you have accomplished and that is all that matters!!!
2006-09-28 11:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋