i think he is cheating on me, but i am not for sure if he is or he is not. how do i know for sure? i want to trust, but at the same time he is acting weird. what do i do?
2006-09-28 04:25:53 · 23 answers · asked by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to catch him. For that you need more facts to know for sure. You don't say how long you have been dating or your ages, there could be many reasons he is acting strange - school, work, puberty, illness - or cheating.
Ask yourself a few questions:
What specifically has changed, not just a feeling but real facts?
Is there any eviedence of an affair - extra computer time, blowing you off unexpectedly, being out late with no explanation, you cant find him at times but before you always could, strange calls he cant take infront of you, is he dressing better, does he smell better, does he talk about new things - different music or foods that he is suddenly aware of? Does he have less money?
Then you need to decide what to do - DONT GET THAT ADVICE HERE - talk to someone you trust or a professional.
The only factor is what is right for you, if he is what do you want to do - let him cheat, have him break it off, cheat too, or move on? if he isnt will you be able to trust him or always be looking for him to cheat?
2006-09-28 04:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he is, trust your instincts, that may be a possibility. DON'T confront him until you have some facts. If there may be something unusual with him and you don't feel as secured in the relationship anymore, tell him that you trust him but that you need to know whats going on.
One simple trick is to send him flowers or something else at work, put a name of someone else as the sender. If he tells you about it at the end of the day, then maybe you just need to let go of your doubts. Your relationship may just be slowing down which is completely normal. You can't be with each other all the time or else it will tear you apart.
2006-09-28 11:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him. Ask him lots of questions. Tell him about the way that you have noticed him acting, and what it is making you think that he is cheating. Does he always have an excuse? And on the other hand... if you feel it in your heart that he is cheating... then im sorry.. he probably is. I went through the same situation with a guy that I was with. I felt so strongly that he was cheating on me. But he talked his way out of it, would get mad at me, then we'd fight. At the time... I felt like an *** because I felt like I accused him of something he didnt do.... 2yrs later... I found out that everything that I felt was TRUE. not saying that its your situation.. But men are DOGS.... your lucky if you find a great one.
2006-09-28 11:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by 2girlsmother 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does it matter if he is? it sounds like you already have a trust issue going on here.
He could NOT be cheating and you would still be suspecting he is.
You two need to talk about this as a couple. If after this talk you do not believe he is telling the truth then you two need to have another discussion - this one about terminating the relationship.
like I said.. it doesn't matter if he is or isn't - the real problem is that he has given you some reason (and this isn't the ONLY thing that has sent a red flag up for you) for you not to trust him. that has to be delt with. if it can't be delt with to your satisfaction you owe it to yourself and him and your relationship to terminate it.
2006-09-28 11:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how old you are, if an adult, time him up I mean see if his in a good mode arrange a nice dinner with him, then ask him, Do U really love me? If the answer is Yes, then ask - Can you marry me? You can learn from his answer that his interested in you or he is using you, which I think waisting your time. Harriet.
2006-09-28 11:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Harriet N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having the feeling he is cheating on you, there might be some truth in that, it might be your conscience trying to warn you.
I will rather advise that you keep your eyes open to see whether you will see any sign of unfaithfulness
Good luck
2006-09-28 11:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i really can't answer this one because any answers i give i come from the heart and say what i would do. now my boyfriend and i are kinda in the same situation. what i can tell you is be patient. a man never covers his tracks. you will know. find out his patterns, follow him one day. what you do in the dark will come to light always remember that.
2006-09-28 11:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by slimchuckie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl follow your gut.A women's intuition is never wrong.Usually when a women gets a feeling that her man is cheating she is usually right.Remember once a cheater is always a cheater but that's the decision you have to make for yourself .
2006-09-28 12:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to ask him first questions that will lead to the answer you need to know then f it wont work.ask your friends to investigate him for you. ask them to play detective so you will know the truth. and if you have proven that he cheated on you, then dont give him a chance to cheat onyou again.or you can email the cheaters on reality tv
2006-09-28 11:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by zaieth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask him straight out. If you don't believe him then it time to start looking around at either staying single or finding a new boyfriend...... Trust me if you can't trust him or believe him then it not worth it.
2006-09-28 11:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by mac tonight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋