I have a roommate who is friends with this lesbian girl he met at work. He brought her home one night to spend the night as a guest of my roommate, not me. Well, the girl gets kicked out of her apartment, and she showed up at MINE a few nights ago. We talked, and it made more logical sense for her to stay at MY place rather than with a friend with 4 toddlers, and waaay out in the middle of nowhere. I agreed to let her stay, and now, she cleans my kitchen very well ( a problem I have with the first roommate) she's very respectful, she's asked me to massage her back (under her shirt) , she asked me to rub her feet because they were cold, and she's slept in my bed the last 2 nights, because she says she can't stand to hear my other roommate snore. She also said last night that "we have a lot in common, like we're on the same page"..should I take all this as a sign that she may LIKE me, or that she's just trying to get on my good side to have a place to stay? I'm so confused.
2006-09-28 04:25:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a pre-op female to male transsexual, or a "former butch lesbian" however you wanna look at it I guess. This girl KNOWS this and she also knows I'm only attracted to soft butch lesbians (which is what SHE is)
2006-09-28 04:30:44 · update #1
Ask her out. If she says yes, she likes you.
2006-09-28 05:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh darlin', you've got a bit of a conundrum on your hands. If she's only trying to get on your good side to allow her to stay, then you're opening yourself up for heartbreak later.
If she really is interested in you, then you've still got an issue with her being a lesbian, which you aren't really. Granted, I know you used to identify as Stone Butch, and that's not the problem.
It's that you identify more now as a pre-op male transgender and you have a lesbian hitting on you.
Granted that may not even be a problem at all. As long as she's aware that you aren't going to remain female forever.
I think I'd actually have a private sit-down with her and outright ask her what her motivations are.
It's the only way you'll ever actually know for sure.
Good luck, I'm kinda hoping that she's genuinely attracted to you, you seem so cute!
2006-09-28 14:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!! She's tryin to trap you! Lol. No, just playin with ya. I think these may be good signs that she's interested. Or she just may have a really flirtatious personality. It really depends on who she is as a person. If I was the one doing these things (cleaning for u, askin for massages, sleepin in your bed, etc) you mite as well just count your lucky stars cuz Yea pretti much im trying to sleep with you. But thats because im not like that in general. Im not touchy feely, i dont clean for people im not with and i dont want to sleep in your bed unless its for a GOOD reason. So if im doing these things, i want u badly. But she may be different. Read her signs a little more. Then when u feel comfortable, u take the lead role and ASK HER.
2006-09-28 11:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like there is much to be confused about, she obviously likes you. Why dont u make a move towards her one night while she is sleeping in your bed. Like maybe put your arms around her, kiss her neck. Just needing a place to stay would mean you sleep on the couch honey, if your an experienced lesbian, u know this.
2006-09-28 12:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful. You dont want to ruin a good thing. Go slow and let her lead. You can drop little hints to let her know that you are interested, that way the ball is in her court. Good Luck!
2006-09-28 11:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes you i would not clean no ones kitchen unless i liked the guy a lot but its weard she is just not respecting any rules rub her back and sleep in youre bed yeah she likes you but she is not going to get any respect from you cuz of all the things she is doing . just wait and see how evry thing works out good luck and lots of hugzzzz...
2006-09-28 11:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kicked out of one place, lands on your door (without really knowing you?), is immediately seducing you or something close to it.... Sounds manipulative to me.
Don't get your heart involved until you've had enough time around this women to get a real measure of her. She doesn't sound like a very stable person.
2006-09-28 11:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hola!!! What more does this poor girl have to do. I mean the timing is not the greatest for going out with her being "homeless" and all but ... trust me. She is waiting for YOU to ask HER out.
2006-09-28 13:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is interested in you. I hope you like this, cause otherwise it might be hard for you
2006-09-28 13:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a pre-op female to male transexual??
2006-09-28 12:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋