I am engaged 2 a great man. I am so much in love with him & I think about him all the time. He likes 2 talk friendly with girls. When we go 2 the store together I always noticed him being overly friendly with girls. He is in his late 30's & I am in my mid 30's. Sometimes some of these girls look like they are teenagers. But I feel threatened by it. He also travels for work & I fear he is going 2 be friendly with girls out of town & they might missunderstand him. He even asked one girl at a store what church she goes to & he told me that she was cute then he said not as cute as me. Then the next day he went to the same store to buy something 4 me. He was looking at her hard. She looks like a teenager. He tells me that he will never leave me & that I am the best think that has ever happened 2 him & that he loves me more than anything. But I am still worried. I saw an email address he hid from me in his room. I didn't ask. I fear he has email addresses that I don' know about. I'm sad.
2006-09-28 04:23:33 · 15 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are in love with a man that enjoys flirting. This may, or may not indicate his inclination to cheat.
Sounds like you need to discuss what each of your definitions of "cheating" are and where the line should be drawn. Once that is decided and agreed to, it becomes a matter of trust. If you disagree, then I suggest you put off the wedding until you do.
2006-09-28 04:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not paranoid at all. Honestly I think these are all signs that are screaming at you not to marry this man. He has no respect for you and he flirts with girls that look like teenagers. This is not a good sign at all. I was not at all surprised to see he might have an e-mail address you dont know about. I think if you marry this man you will spend your life feeling paranoid and being worried. He gives you ever reason to. If a man will flirt right in front of your face what do you think he's doing when your not there ?
2006-09-28 04:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THe only thing that has really caught my eye was he telling you that another woman is cute.
He can be a friendly guy and like talking to girls, but he feeling the need of rubbing into your face that someone else is cute sounds a little worrying to me.
Anyway you are engaged, just remember that when you get married things wont get better, so just get married if you can take him as he is.
2006-09-28 04:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry more about the hiding email addresses than I would the being friendly. If you do not feel that you can trust him, do not say I Do to him, it will only get worse with time...Now is the time to talk to him about it and if he will not do what he needs to to make you feel secure now, then you are better moving on. Do this before you get married...
2006-09-28 04:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be two issues involved...Your insecurity, and your boyfriends "overly" friendliness, and attraction to young girls/women.
Remember this...if he is going to cheat....there is nothing you can do about it...it will his choice and his alone.
You need to realize you have NO control over his actions; only how you choose to re-act. Work on your self-esteem; if you do not feel comfortable with the way he "flirts" with other women, tell him.
If he really loves you and cares about your feelings...he will stop. (at least when your around)
Give it a few months, see if there is any change...if not...move on. I would never marry someone that I did not completely trust.
Good Luck :)
2006-09-28 04:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by swampfox conservative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of know what youre going through. my husband doent really talk to other women(at least not while im around), but he does chat with women online, sometimes not the way a married
man should, and i also find addresses around sometimes. he also looks at a lot of internet porn. i asked him about it and he said im the only one for him, but hes just a man(what ever).and
he also seems to be a bit interested in younger women. im 27 and hes 39. i get paranoid sometimes too. you might just tell him how you feel. but try not to sound like youre thinking something bad of him. goodluck
2006-09-28 04:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by sweetwhitegirl28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, why so insecure? Honey you need to get HELP and fast. You are going to PUSH him away. I'll say this, I know A LOT of overly friendly men but it does not mean they want to jump in the sack with me or whomever else. It's their nature...Just be glad he's a nice guy...
2006-09-28 04:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a valid point. If you are so worried now, I don't think marrying him will work. Tell him you want to wait and see how thing goes. See how he responds.
2006-09-28 04:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by spot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... talk to him
from what you said he honestly sounds like a jerk! he shouldn't be flirting with other women or girls in front of his fiance. i would ask him why he is interested in such young women too. good luck and all the best to you
2006-09-28 04:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by tinkbostwick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you?
If he does; he would not be doing that that is disrespectful to your character.
he does not respect you if he does that;
A guy can look; but my dear; actions speak louder than words.
2006-09-28 04:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by lusaisthebest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋