Ive been there for my friend when no one else was. through all the relationships shes had, and done nothing but been supportive. about a year ago she met a new guy. Although i had never met him, i was supportive. Her and i are complete opposites, yet i still support her decisions, earlier this year things got serious with her relationship and she moved 3 states over. We still maintained our friendship. One day her boyfriend, having never talked to me, decides to take over her messenger and talks to me. I am nice. All of a sudden he gets an attitude with me and critisizes my use of language. so i reacted with the way i usually would, harsh words were exchanged, in the end he told me that i need to be nice to him because he controls who she is friends with. All and all, she said that i had no right in doing what i did, which i call defending who i am, and started writing horrible emails to people she doesnt know about me. We stopped talking, am i in the wrong for just ending it?
2006-09-28 04:22:05 · 14 answers · asked by zildjianmister12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did what you had to instead of checking you she needs to check her man about his attitude towards your character. Don't feel bad sweetie you defended yourself but it's too bad she can't see it that way. Most girls when they get a man they don't know how to act. Therefore they sometimes cut their friends off or get upset with them in case similar to this one. It's sad because she choose a man over a friend that she has known for six years. But it's her lost so don't be to hard on yourself nor blame yourself she's the one who ended things when she started sending emails to people about you. Furthermore just keep standing up for yourself and hold your head up high you'll be alright. Good Luck
2006-09-28 04:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that your friends judgment is clouded. Love is blind but it is also blinding. Does your friend know about him saying that he controls who she is friends with? Maybe not. I had a boyfriend like that a few years ago and some of the friends I lost I will never get back and that is sad. Boyfriends come and go but good friends are hard to come by. I think you need to talk to your friend... In person if possible. But tell her how much she means to you, how much you love her and how you will always be there for her. calmly explain how you think parts of her relationship are unhealthy for her. I know you won't apologize for being yourself and I'm not saying you should have to, but maybe apologize for some things that might have been said in the heat of the moment.
I hope things work out for you but I don't thing you should forget about your friendship.
2006-09-28 04:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend in high school start dating this guy are junior year. At first everything was fine, and then he started telling her all kinds of **** to get us apart. Well she listened to him and quit being my friend. I went on with my life; they got married; about a couple of years out of high school, she called me to tell me that she was stupid and missed our friendship. We talk now; it will never be like it use to be; but guess what they are divorced. What I am saying is friends are forever ~ most of the time. You could tell her you are sorry that she feels that way; but that you were standing up for yourself and her. If she doesn't see it right of way that you are a true friend she will later. Give it time; but in the mean while move on with your life.
2006-09-28 04:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well does she know what took place between yall?? If not and you ended it then maybe you should reconsider. Now if she does know and she didn't respond about his actions then sorry about your loss of friendship and even more sorry for your friend because it sounds like she may be in a scary situation with no friends to help.
2006-09-28 04:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by SH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong, funny how that samething just happened to me last month! But I wouls just remove myself from that friendship. Let them do them and move on because it is more of a haedache to continue being in the middle.
2006-09-28 04:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you it all depend on her me and my bestfriend for 4 18yrs stop talking because a boy what u did was not wrong because she should never put her man b4 if you feel that u dont want to talk to her thats ok one day she will realize she need you
2006-09-28 05:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Shanta e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it might hurt loosing a friend you always have to be true to yourself! She will get herself in a bind and find herself wishing she had stood up for you. In the end it will be her who needs you.
2006-09-28 04:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this situation, i think its her fault. u did what u had to do, n there's nothing wrong with it. u deserve a better friend. i dont think we should even refer to her as ur friend. a friend will be there for no matter what happens, n she is nothing like a friend. u may be hurting, but keep in mind that u deserve better. move on, girl....good luck..
2006-09-28 04:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by nini moreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, a boyfriend that controls her friends? that's bull...And she started telling people bad things about you? OMG. no way, i would of ended it too. You don't need friends like that sweety
2006-09-28 04:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. she doesn't sound like a good friend. if her boyfriend breaks up with her and wants to talk to her. don't. let her see how it would feels if you aren't around to help her.
2006-09-28 04:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by mommie2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋