How do you feel, when you see or hear parents shouting or hitting their children???

Question

It makes my blood boil, and puts a cold shiver down my spine when i witness this kinda thing. Ive come close, just one time when i nearly hit a woman in the street for beating her child. "THEN" she reported me to the police. AAAAAAAARRRGGGGGHHHHH silly woman.......

I would like to add, i was actually takling to the child at the time, And nearly got hit myself. I DID NOT INVITE IT , IT CAME TO ME.......

Answer 1

I HATE those kind of parents! I wish I could just scoop those poor kids up in my arms and run away with them and place them in a safe house. They don't deserve to have children. :( Good Luck! :)

Answer 2

I was at the zoo one time with my bf, and this little girl, who must have been about two, was with her mother looking at the same exhibit. There were meercats all over the place, but the little girl couldn't see any. Her mother lifted her up and said "There, look" and pointed. The little girl couldn't work out where her mother was looking and the mother beame impatient, and subsequently, irrate. She shook the child violently and shouted "THERE! ARE YOU F**KING STUPID???" My bf put his hand on my arm to stop me reacting. It was so unneccessary and so awful. I felt so sorry for the little girl whose only mistake had been her inability to spot the meercat. Visits the zoo are supposed to be a pleasant experience for a child, not a trauma. I can't say I was particularly impressed with her mother's teaching skills.

I understand that parenting can be a trial, and that people lose their patience, but sometimes their anger is so unneccessary and they should try a little harder to control it. I was smacked as a kid, and I've grown up with a healthy respect for what's right and wrong. I don't think smacking is wrong per se, but within reason. You shouldn't be leaving welts on your children's skin or doing them any actual harm. There is a difference between smacking for discipline, and aggression.

And aggression towards children is NEVER okay.

Answer 3

To be honest I have not seen children smacked and shouted at very much in shops but I have seen far too many kids who SHOULD be disciplined and who are screaming their heads off in public places, and the parents are ignoring them. By that I don't mean they should be smacked either. I just don't want to have to listen to badly behaved kids when I am out. Unacceptable behaviour should result in a swift smack on the legs. If that doesn't work remove them from the store and tell them off in private and announce whatever punishment they will get at home i.e. no t.v. tonight or staying in room for a period. I have had four children and I never allowed them to disturb other people outside the home.

Answer 4

okay if you mean really thrashing the poor child I guess i would interfere but if it was a tap then know as some kids need a tap on the hands not a beating. I tap my children on their hands and the back of their legs only if they have been really naughty/cheeky. I have had people talked to me about this. I am their mum what i say goes not some stranger in the street.

Answer 5

small children are like angels with two horns....i know some parents can be ruthlessly abusive towards heir offsprings but these are more likely if the child happened by accident i.e. the parents were not ready for him/her....however a little spanking is (my personal feelings) is justified...i used to get a lot of them from my Mum wen i was a kid...infact it continued till my late teens!! (though none from my Dad!!) during those days i used to simply hate her...but now after a decade i feel good/and gratefull to her that she was a strict mother at that time ......even though i do not have kids of my own, sometimes i use this third degree treatment (thats how i used to relate to beating earlier) to deal wit my kid cousins.....

Answer 6

I am not a violent person but boy could those sort of parents make me want to change my mind and thump them too, if you hit an adult its either classed as an assault or GBH, if you hit a child that seems to be fine because your its mother or father and you can do as you damn well please, I was beaten and thumped by my father as a child, he was a psychopath and thought nothing of using the buckle on his big leather belt straight across our faces, they are not fit to be called parents those sort and they should have their kids taken off them if that's what they think kids are for, all they are is pure bullies who need a good hiding themselves, there are other ways to punish kids and the hand or fist is not the way to do it, violence breeds violence for a lot of those kids because they just think its normal.

Answer 7

if its a slap as a way of disciplining their child and as a way of signalling to them to not to do it again then i have no problem with that. but it should never go as far as hitting them with a stick, or punching or kicking them for example. that is just unacceptable and immoral and it is classified as abuse.

i was beaten by my parents in the past. the physical beatings i got ranged from a slap to being smacked with a broom and at one stage they even threatened to chop my fingers off with a knife.

when i see parents however shove their kids to the ground or punching them or kicking them incessently not only does it make me furious but it brings back those terrible memories of me being abused. i feel like going up to them and saying something but i don't because it is not my duty to lecture parents into how to look after and raise their own kids. and it is their own kids and not mines, after all.

Answer 8

If you would have done that, you would be no different than her! If it's not ok to hit a child, then it's not ok to hit her either! What a hypocrite! I'm sure alot of us parents have raised our voice to the kids at ont time or another. Some of us have even gone so far as to spank our kids as a last resort. There is a time and place for that, and you are right about one thing, it shouldn't be in public!

Answer 9

i love it... i beat my kids daily with a stick with nails in it. They cant walk now but walking is so overrated. Seriously kidding

by hit you mean smack in face or something like that. But if you were to hit her all you are doing is reenforcing the idea of violence is what controls people.

Intellegent conversation should be what you use. Make her feel like an idiot for hitting her kids. That would make her stop quicker than smacking her.

Now my kids get a spank on the bottom at home only when talking needs to be backed up by action and never out of anger. Its a lesson that makes them remember.

Answer 10

It upsets me too! But cuz of the way today's society thinks I just walk away. Even if I'm in the middle of my grocery shopping, I'll just come back later. It is not worth getting into it with the parent.

And you already have experience dealing with the cops!

Answer 11

I feel sorry for them. The people I've seen doing it are usually what I would describe as trailer trash. So I already feel sorry for them, just for being born into that. I hope they're able to rise above their roots and not simply carry on those traits with their own families.