2 months ago I moved into a brand new house that I'm leasing.One of the stipulations of the lease is no pets allowed.Now keep in mind my husband is fully aware of this.And what does he decide to do but bring home a very large great dane.We've had pets in the past and I tolerated them because he wanted them.But this time I said no,because I always end up having to take care of them.And not to mention our landlord said no pets allowed.My idiotic husband doesn't seem to care and he doesn't understand why I'm so furious with him.He's done this several times in the past he'll make a decision without consulting with me first.It's as if my opinion doesn't matter and i'm just an after thought.I tried to explain how I feel about what he's done.But he doesn't get it so my question to everyone is this.Do I have a right to be mad about this?Because I see it as blatant disrespect towards me anyway I'm curious to see just how many people think I'm right or wrong.
2006-09-28 04:06:32 · 28 answers · asked by brooklyncrazysexycool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have every right to be mad. That is the kind of decision you need to make together. It's like having a child. He wouldn't be very happy with you if you have a baby without consulting him! Have you talked to your landlord though? Will they make an exception for you? Or if he wants a dog, at least if it were a smaller dog.
2006-09-28 04:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would be just as pissed as you are since he did not consult with you first and I'm sure he knows good and well that there are going to be times that you will have to care for the dog when he's not there. I would be very upset- especially since you cannot even have dogs in the house to begin with. My husband has done the same thing to me in the past and we ended up haveing to get rid of the dog( after we spend a butt load of money to take care of it) and had to pay a fine because the landlord found out about the dog. Men are so dumb!!!
2006-09-28 04:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by JUSTME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset with him. Not only is he disrespecting you for not including you on the decision, but he is also breaking the terms of your lease.
Write down how you feel and let him read it. State all the logical reasons as well. Sometimes men understand written word over the verbal (they just don't hear well). Also, he can't claim that you never said anything.
Then you need to make a decsion. Disrespect in a marrage is not healthy. More often than not it ends in divorce. Working out problems like this early is essential to avoid unhappy endings for everyone.
Best wishes
2006-09-28 04:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by phyres_phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy, would I be ticked off! When you bring an addition to the family - it's a FAMILY decision. My gosh, a great dane for crying out loud! Your landlord is going to have every right to toss you all out AND keep ALL deposits! I really wouldn't blame him - a renter bringing in a great dane when it says NO PETS. But besides that, it IS REALLY disrespectful of him to do this to you. I'd be furious. Maybe you can talk to him about finding a home for this poor dog with a family or someone who wants to and has time to care for a Great Dane - preferably someone who has a nice yard for the fella to run in. Your husband sounds really stubborn about this. Good luck to you, because it sounds like you are in a really tough spot.
2006-09-28 04:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RIGHT! not are you right, but you may being having to move too!
Your landlord could be writing up the paperwork right now. And your husband didn't bring home a puppy or even a dog-he's a got a horse! Great dane's are huge! They need a saddle instead of a leash. I am a dog person, I love my puppy (10years old) we take him everywhere with us. Family vacations, got him a stroller, and he's has visited museums and been the ring bearer in my daughter's wedding. I love dogs, but this is a horse, and they have to have room!
You have just cause to be upset, if he doesn't take care of HIS pets, and leaves the work up to you-it's not fair and it is disrespectful of him. Your husband loves dogs, that fine, but not everyone does. I understand that, and I am very respectful when taking my puppy with me. If we are visiting people or family who aren't dog people then he stays at home. My parents aren't dog people, so I don't impose my lifestyle on them. The dog has got to go whether you really want him or not is not what's important - your new home is not dog friendly- And for him to chance the risk of eviction is crazy!
Right! Right! you are so right, and again, I am a dog lover! My friends who have great danes comes to visit me, and they bring 1 of them sometimes-a horse by any other name is a dane!
God bless us all.............
2006-09-28 04:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a wife, but I still want to chime in on this one. He has no respect for what you think or feel and he obviously does not care that he is violating the rental agreement with the land lord. I say that while he is gone to work, you need to take the dog and sell it or give it away to someone that can have one and the will take good care of it. When he asks about the dog, tell him that you got rid of it because you are going to honor the rental agreement and you do not like the fact that he will do things like that without even talking to you about it. It may be a rough night, but you need to stand your ground or he will walk all over you forever...
2006-09-28 04:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right! If my husband had put me in that situation unfortunately I would become a b***h & then there will be two pets in the house! :) Serously, it might be better if you hid the dog and when he asked you where it is tell him you've given it away. If he reacts like 'why ' and all the usual tell him that this (giving the dog without his permission etc) is exactly his what he did to you, get the dog back and ask him to take it to a petshop before you loose your house.
2006-09-28 04:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by marissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with you and be mad at him...but then I would have to get things settled and just have a talk with him and explain to him that you are fed up with having to take care fo his pets and the lease states " NO PETS" okay...if that doesn't work why don't you both move into a place that you can have pets and tell him you want them so you take care of them...oaky...Good Luck!
2006-09-28 04:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you guys could get evicted for having a pet when it plainly states "no pets". He sounds like an idiot. When he brings home a pet, get rid of it. Every time. He'll catch on. He's acting like a 5 year old.
2006-09-28 04:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, i am a guy but just had to answer.... Yes you have every right to be upset... whats gonna happen when your landlord finds out??? It's not like you can hide a Great Dane.... You gonna get evicted and loose your security deposit... Personally, I think your husband is an idiot... He lacks any inkling of responsibility...
2006-09-28 04:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋