My husband's ex girlfriend keeps calling him from time to time, saying that she misses him, what should I do?
My husband's ex-girlfriend calls him from time to time and tells him that she thinks about him all the time and wants to know if that matters to him? She asks him if he will take her back? and I might add that this is the same girl that cheated on him with my ex-boyfriend YES!!! My ex and I broke up after 4 years, because she cheated on my husband with him and as fate would have it my husband and I ended up together married now for over a year and have a 1 year old little boy together! I told me ex- to just stay away and he has, he has moved on and it was hard for him but he has.but, my husband's ex will not move on she keeps popping up! My husband has told her over and over that he wants nothing to do with her, and that he is happily married and loves his wife and child What should I do? He has already had to get his cell number changed! now she is calling him at work SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME???? I love my husband and trust him, but I dont want her in our family picture!!!!
2006-09-28 04:01:26 · 32 answers · asked by YOUKNOWYOUWANNAKNOW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I was you I would give him a little space because it is just a phase I went through the same thing with an ex of mines and my wife gave me room because she trust me and i didn't fowl up things but it also came a time I had to realize that she is his ex for a reason some women try to look for lost love that's no longer there. And believe it might seems they are getting closer if he is a fool than he would fall for it but it will not last for long because as time will go on he will remember why they are not together now. opps i just read the rest of what you wrote sorry well hell get a restraining order put on her because she could be a withdrawn love addict that made a bad choice in men and now realize what she lost.
2006-09-28 04:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok your Husbands ex is a psycho but my question is how did she get his cell phone number in the first place his work # I understand but his cell # I dont understand if hes told her to move on then she shouldnt have his cell phone number and he never should had to change the cell # unless hes been calling her from his cell phone and she got the number from her caller Id how else would she have gotten his cell number?and second of all if he has been calling her on his cell phone then hes sending her mixed messages shes his ex not yours so it is up to him to put a stop to this but theres no reason for him to change the cell number keep it simple he just needs to let her know shes making an A SS out of herself or better yet you could do what I did to my husbands ex and tell her yourself that shes making an even bigger A ss out of herself chasing after your Husband who has moved on and this will do one or two things P iss her off even more or she will realize that you are right and she will get a life and man of her own.
2006-09-28 04:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I have a similar problem. My husband's ex isn't AS dramatic as this one. She has some SERIOUS ISSUES. In this case - you are dealing with a woman with LOW SELF ESTEEM, zero confidence and the inability to MOVE ON. its really quite pathetic, if you ask me.
The deal in my house is that if she wants to be friends with my husband, that's fine, but she doens't get to spend time with him WITHOUT ME. If we all want to go to dinner, or hiking, opr whatever, if I am not invited, he doens't go. And this isn't MY rule - it's my husband's rule! He says her lack of acknowledgement of MY presence is so completely rude, that she doens't DESERVE to hang out with us.
The issue here is that your HUSBAND needs to be more direct. How is he even having these conversations? He should be answering the phone and telling her "I AM MARRIED AND I DON"T WANT YOUR DRAMA, STOP CALLING ME"
At WORK - he could get FIRED for having conversations like this. If his line is NOT direct dial and goes through a secretary - he can ask him/her to screen the calls and NOT put through any calls from her. If she doens't let up, he can get a personal protection order against her, because calling at work repeatedly adn unwantedly can be considered harassment.
The truth of the matter here is this is a broken, twisted woman, and your HUSBAND has to end it.
He married you - he loves you, I am glad you still trust him. he needs to be a bit stronger, because she isn't getting the message, he needs to yell at her, hang up on her, TELL her he is going to the police to get a restraining order, and if she still doesn't stop - follow through.
I feel for you - psycho ex-girlfriends are the worst. but I also feel sorry for her pathetic life that she can't move on.
2006-09-28 04:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time she calls, take his phone, tell her you are not playing the game, he is happily married and has a child and the 2 of you are very much in love. Don't be rude about it but tell her VERY firmly, she needs to MOVE on and GET OVER it!!!Good Luck and keep trusting him...
2006-09-28 04:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could always file a police report. Next time she calls him at work, have him record exactly the time and date, etc. Like the movies - have her stay on the line for at least 30 seconds and then have him report it to the police. Have him tell her that he's reported her stalking to the police. After you've filed a police report, you can give that information to the phone company and her number can then be blocked. But you have to do the police report thing first.
2006-09-28 04:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch she is still head over heals in love with him. Or she only wants him because you have him. I would confront her when you and him are there. Maybe he is not being as harsh as he needs to. If she doesnt stop stalking him have him get a protective order against her. She may be a little on the crazy side. Good luck
2006-09-28 04:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's time for you to confront her. My wife had a similar situation, a guy that wouldn't leave her along, until I wrote him and asked him to treat her with the respect due a married woman. Then he threw a temper tantrum. It was actually kind of funny. But he left and hasn't been back yet.
2006-09-28 04:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her a#$ on BLAST and let her know that she needs to move the hell on and stop finding ways to contact your husband. In fact you and your husband should tell her together the next time she calls to get a life and move in the other direction.
2006-09-28 04:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl first of all I would have a LONG conversation with that woman and let her know that she ****** up and now he's yours! Now if she doesn't get the picture then he should get a restraining order against her and if THAT doesn't work then I just say you need to show her you AIN'T the one to mess with!
2006-09-28 04:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husband can always report her for stalking! That would put an end to it or she winds up arrested for violating a restraining order.
But it's probably best that your husband simply refuse to take her calls. That's what caller ID and answering machines are for.
2006-09-28 04:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋