2006-09-28 04:00:28 · 25 answers · asked by KelBean 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure, what harm could you possibly do to your relationship now?
2006-09-28 04:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I hope you have a happy and healthy baby. I wish no morning sickness and a very short labor! So, you don't get along with Mom. To start off with I have been married 26 years, and I am a new mother-in-law of only a couple of months.
I would suggest you share the news with her, maybe this will help the relationship you have with her. You are going to be dealing with woman for a lot of years, and now especially with a baby on the way, she's going to have a bigger role in your life.
Is the woman just a mean old person, does she have issues? Can you find anything you like about her?
Now, I said all that...have you given her a chance? A lot of people don't let the in-laws have an opportunity because they have been raised thinking that all in-laws are horrible people and are always up in your business. That's not true. I had wonderful loving caring in-laws. At first, my mother-in-law was distant, but I had lunch with her by ourselves and told her...we had something in common- our love for the same man-her son! That I only wanted the very best for him, and that I would cherish him and love him till my dying day. She accepted me that day, and we had such a good relationship from then on, till she introduced me as a daughter not a daughter-in-law. Honey, give her a chance, then if it doesn't work, then please remember that's her baby that you are loving. When you hold you child in your arms for the first time, you will have a great understanding.
So, you pick a good time, and you and your fiance can spring the news on Mom. It's up to you when...I am praying that this will bring you two together...like I said you both love the same man-so you do have something in common!
God bless us all...............
2006-09-28 04:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that #1, this is more of a ? or discusion between you & your fiance, even more so than those of us on yahoo that are always willing to give up our opinion. with that said, #2, if it were me, I think that I would wait, do your initial Dr. visits, make sure everything is ok, etc. The time to tell her would be probably just before you start to show (not sure how well you can predict that ? & finally #3, when you are ready to tell her, or pretty much anyone else for that matter, you should make every attempt to do so as a couple. Goodluck =)
2006-09-28 04:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her the truth asap (at a good time), and remember that it will be a shock for her at first so she might say some things that she doesn't really mean.
You don't have to be best friends, you just have to try to get along and maybe things will get better. Now you are part of the same family, so attitudes are bound to change overtime and maybe you'll become good friends.
2006-09-28 04:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our first one we referred to as everybody good away! My hubby grow to be on one cellular and that i grow to be on the different good after the dwelling house attempt lol. there grow to be no IF issues do not finally end up i grow to be pregnant! the 2d time we did an identical undertaking. informed everybody good away yet regrettably had an early miscarriage so as that grow to be complicated making the calls later. This time we've been slightly greater careful yet nonetheless enable close relatives be attentive to so as that they could pray for us. Then whilst the transvaginal test grow to be executed and we observed the pulse at 6 weeks and a pair of days. The rfile shown we had a workable being pregnant we slowly introduced. It wasn't till the protection mark of 14 weeks that we informed everybody else. My husband introduced at artwork and that i introduced to people who I chat with and something of the buddies and relatives. all of it comes right down to decision. a number of my buddies waited till they have been 3 months earlier telling anybody. We could not wait lol. maximum suitable of luck, congrats and advantages:)
2016-10-01 11:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by cosco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her I know we dont get along with alot of things but for the baby's sake lets start trying.
2006-09-28 04:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should keep pregnancy quiet until the end of your first trimester. Your husband can know, obviously. But in case of a miscarriage, which is very common - you should get through the first trimester before making the announcement.
2006-09-28 04:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes gonna find out and why not from you?
Go tell it on the mountain!
You can't reverse.
But don't tell it in a way that says, "Ha Ha, your stuck with me, Na Na Na Boo Boo."
Let her know, on the happy level. Happy for her too.
2006-09-28 04:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell her right now. Wait til you are further along because you don't need to be getting upset right now in the early stages of pregnancy.
2006-09-28 04:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let him till her, i remember my husband telling my mother inlaw, it was not pretty, she started to yell at me at the Restaurant , i just got my things and left, do not let her upset you and i think you should let your fiance tell her when you are not around, till this day i have many problems with her and she still hates me. Good luck and keep me posted!
2006-09-28 04:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kel Bean, you need to mend fences right now before the little one comes along.
2006-09-28 04:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋