It is about my wife. When we go to bed, after sex, she goes and sleeps in another room. She says she needs her sleep. I am a very physical person. I need a lot of hugs, kisses, I want to hold on to something, I like to sleep in each others arms, I like to wake up together, etc. What should I do? Talk does not help. She says "You have to learn to adjust". Otherwise the marriage is OK.
2006-09-28 03:50:17 · 17 answers · asked by ken88dorset 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How about coming up with a compromise. Like you can hug and kiss for a few minutes or if you want more time, go to bed earlier that way you can have up to an hour. Let her sleep on her side of the bed, and don't get clingy with her while she's sleeping. Then on the weekends (when you can sleep in) compromise to wake up together and stay in bed a while holding each other. She'll still be able to get her sleep, and you won't feel like she's abandoning you after sex.
2006-09-28 03:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you need that physical connection, that you got married to share a bed not for s3x only but to wake up next to another. The marriage is not OK -without judging, or attacking your relationship-.
Ask yourself when did this start, is your intimacy in and out or full of passion? How does your partner feel? Why aren't you talking to her as I'm answering you?
You have to address these and quick
all the best
2006-09-28 03:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Evana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're the man and she's the woman? It sounds like the other way around. I personally don't like to be touched when I'm sleeping and the sound of someone snoring is quite bothersome. I feel for your wife and for you too, since you two are coming at things from different places. Maybe a compromise where she stays and spends some quality time when you, then slips off to her own room to sleep. Good luck to you.
2006-09-28 03:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cant sleep wrapped around each other. If this is your only problem in your marriage you should be happy. Why not buy a body pillow and wrap yourself around that and make believe its your wife ? That's better than having her sleep in another room. You shouldn't take it personal. I dont like to feel someone on me when I'm sleeping either.
2006-09-28 03:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents slept seperately because my dad snored and thrashed about in the night. Do you do anything like that? Could a bigger bed help you to sleep together yet give enough space so that each sleeps comfortably? I can't sleep under certain conditions either, I'm a light sleeper and need total quiet and no arms on me, no offense to my partner but you have to get your beauty sleep!
2006-09-28 03:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh MY! I have the same problem with my man. He is very restless if he doesn't have space, so I have to sleep on his futon (we put it next to his bed) so that he can get a good night's rest. He's a tall guy and likes to stretch out. He can't get comfortable if someone is all over him. I'm a very physcial person also, but I'm learning to not take it to heart. They just like their space. I don't agree with her sleeping in another room, but my answer for you is to get a really big bed and try to stay on your side. When we get married, that's what we're doing.
2006-09-28 03:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say maybe the size of the bed is the problem or the type of matress you have. Maybe she can't sleep because she feels you moving? Or maybe you take too much space?
She needs to compromise as well, maybe she can sleep in the same bed as you for a couple of nights a week.
2006-09-28 03:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by bibitopito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have those same needs...I would ask her why she actually, leaves the room? I would tell her that you feel hurt. Tell that woman what you want! That you shouldn't have to learn to adjust. Maybe she has some issues from her childhood? Just talk to her...that is all you can do. She isn't acting normal...
2006-09-28 03:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bet your wife is having an affair for sure keep an eye on her find out what shes upto when you go to work the sleeping in other room thing after sex is classic guilt so find out why she is so guilty
2006-09-28 03:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by scouse2026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling my friend. This is the only way to cure this kind of stuff. Have a un-bias person talk to both of you!
2006-09-28 03:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋