if that holds true, then why do people give them anorther chance?and dose it hold true for both sexs? do you think ladies would cheat on you one time thy would do it again and again, bcause we no you ladies would think men would do it again and again, how many times would you let it go on befor you gave up if you were married with childern?
2006-09-28 03:47:00 · 17 answers · asked by thekid2064 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All saint's have a past and all sinner's have a future. It's the sinner that has to decide if they want to change.
2006-09-28 03:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by BB 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have been married for almost 8 years. I just found out last year that my husband cheated on me with a co-worker. i gave him another chance because of my two babies. He says that he made a mistake and i believe him the only problem the girl is not going away now. sometimes if your spouse truly believes that they made a mistake and realizes what they did was truly wrong and regret what they did they most likely wont cheat again. on the other hand if they have cheated more than once and keep saying they arent going to do it again it is not worth getting your heart broken over and over again. If you have kids it is always hard because nobody wants their kids to grow up in a broken family at least i dont thats why i forgave my husband and now everything is a little better. but if your spouse continues to break your heart by going to another person then its not just you that it is affecting it affects the kids too. thats when you need to say enough is enough its over and get the he double hockey sticks out, and find somebody that will care more about you and the kids than going out and having fun with somebody else.
2006-09-28 11:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by mla_forver 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my wife cheated once said that was it. I forgave her.
Then I caught her in a 3-way with two guys in our bed. She said that was a "slipup and would not happen again" . I forgave her but no longer trusted her.
Then I caught her in a 3-way with same two guys again. Just got a sheepish "sorry". Not forgiving anymore and not trusting.
If this is just the times I caught her I think she has probably done half the town and I just have not caught her with the others.
We have a mentally disabled child and she is the stay at home mom while I work.
So once a cheater always a cheater!!!
2006-09-28 11:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't agree with the saying because it is just the tip of the iceberg of other more serious problems with the relationship. If both works on the relationship it could become very strong after the affair. Or if the relationship failed and ended in divorce then past relationships shouldn't have anything to do with present ones if each are committed to the relationship. I guess you have to look deeper in yourself to find the answers. Good Luck
2006-09-28 11:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you're married with children you or whomever it is should not have to deal with that crap! Vows were taken, children are involved, if the cheating spouse doesn't value his family then they need to step aside. That person should have never thought about commiting if they were going to cause such pain to their spouse! The other spouse that is cheated on should not have to put up with it because you ARE NOT A DOORMAT!!! Give urself some credit! It just pisses me off that family is taken for granted! You are better than that! Let that person go! You will get over it! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-28 11:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think once a cheater always a cheater, but once is enough. If you had to go stepping out on your spouse, then you dont want to be there in the first place. So if my wife cheats on me even though we have two kids, she is gone. My wife thinks the same. If you lay down the law and talk about everything you can avoid situaions like that.
2006-09-28 12:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let it go 16 years. Stupid is abviously my middle name. I knew he cheated, I just didn't want to be divorced. I am so much happier now. I do believe "Once a cheater always a cheater" and I believe it works both ways (male & female)
2006-09-28 11:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is that little, little percentage of people that do learn from their mistakes and change...I think everyone deserves a second chance and after that, that will dsetermine the true person in you...you feel me?....
2006-09-28 10:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peopel give scond chances because they are in love and think that they cannot do without their cheating bozos.
If they are children involved, then you think that is best for their kids. If you are finnancially dependent, then where to go? just forgive them and keep your standard of living.
That's why
2006-09-28 10:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost 80% of marriages deal with cheating of some sort and over 60% it is beleived to be only a one time/one affair thing.
2006-09-28 11:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by cheeks230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let it happen 3 times befor my divorce.....wish Id have left at number 1
2006-09-28 10:50:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋