Does marraige counselling really work?

Question

I have received mixed responses to this. I am interested in hearing other peoples perspective and thier stories (both good and bad).

Answer 1

Yes, it really works.

You need someone elses opinion on life, cuz yours aint working too well. (Denial=Failure to make marriage counseling work.)

You have to be submissive to the idea that maybe someone else can see a little flaw in my way of treating my wife. You have to be open to the other persons way of thinking.

Don't be so skeptical with everybody. Espcially your wife.

It's ultimately up to your FAITH to believe it works.

Answer 2

For some couples,it may be beneficial,but personally,I don't hold much stock in counselling.Why pay someone to tell you what you already know?It's all commom sense.Everyone knows that marriage takes a lot of hard work,commitment and communication along with compromise to work.If both spouses are willing to just sit down and talk out anything and everything that causes any kind of problem in the marriage,they are then counselling themselves. Granted,sometimes some problems are harder than others to resolve,but it can be done if both parties are willing to hear each side of the conflict,and are able to endure criticism. That's all counselling is really,and why break the bank with something that is possible to do yourselves.

Answer 3

It depends on the situation. I think that if a couple is having trouble communication that marriage counseling can work. Sometimes people lose their way with everything going on in their lives. Especially if this was not your strong suit in the first place, you need a third party for objectivity.

If the trouble is that someone cheated, I don't think that counseling will work. The counselor will show you how to move beyond the betrayal and talk you into believing that you have forgiven the person, but in reality, you can never trust again. The marriage could be salvaged, but the feelings will not be the same, they will be masked.

Answer 4

It can only work if reparing the marriage is something both parties are interested in saving, because it's really not about the conselling at all, but rather the chance to say whatever you feel without judgement. The key is to leave all hurtful things that may or may not be said in the office and not bring them home! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Yes it does, but you have to want it to work, if you go into it closed minded, you will never hear what the person is saying to make your marriage work, what a married counselor is, giving you tools to see both sides of each pain, issues, feelings and make you both understand each sides, also on what you both need to do to improve the marriage, the counselor will give you a better understanding on what you need to do. So the bottom line counseling will work if you want it to.

Answer 6

I think its a bunch of bull if both parties arent willing to work things out and compromise. Counsellors (especially those that get paid for it) are full of it. I'd find one affiliated with a church whose primary and only focus is ministering. Some men can't stand marriage counselling cos they feel its just another reason for women to vent and appear as the "victims"

Answer 7

Every situation is different. It works if you and your wife WANT it to work. If your heart isn't in it, it won't work. Are you asking because you are trying to get out of it, or because you've been in it and it doesn't seem to be working? Sometimes it takes a while, over 6 months for it to even begin to work. Again, it just depends on your situation. During that time things can get WORSE before they get better. One of the main reasons I've seen it not work is that during that worse time, people give up...but if they had just given it another couple weeks, it would have worked.

Answer 8

Marriage Counseling may work if both parties want to work it out. If you love each other give it a chance, b/c at one point in time you guys were happy.

Answer 9

It really depends on the issues. I know that is a broad statement, but it is true. My wife and I tried couples counseling and after 5 "meetings" nothing was resolved. We just vented on all sessions. We decided that we each had "ghost" that needed to be handled separately before we could bond back as a couple. Bottom line, fix yourself first -- once you are whole, you are prepared to bond as a couple.

Answer 10

Yes it does!!!. I helped me realize how abnormal my relationship was and how I was being abused on a daily basis. I gave me power and brought back my self steem ...so after 3 months of wonderful marriage counseling and ver insightful information, I filed for divorce. Best decision of my life.