and suddenly, your feelings about things don't matter anymore.
i mean, anything at from what to have for dinner to abortion and religion. whatever you say, its dismissed with a wave of a hand and if it has something to do with something he has done, its not even acknowledged...
whats up with that?
2006-09-28 03:16:12 · 24 answers · asked by mzanjell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you've bought into a bad deal hon.....if your marriage is going sour this soon there appears to be not much hope for it.................
2006-09-28 03:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first year of marriage is often the most difficult.
Men often get into the mindset that they no longer have to pursue and so, why bother to go out of the way to try to romance you any more. .
But hang in there, okay. Marriage is not an easy choice. He may be feeling unhappy as well that things are changing from his perspective as well.
Keep letting him know you love him and are there for him, and as you show him the wife that thinks he's the greatest thing in the world, you will see him change.
2006-09-28 03:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the honeymoon is over. I can't tell you how to cope with it it's just something you have to do. Make some friends that you can talk to about things that interest you. Most men don't really make very good conversation unless they're talking with their buddies, coworkers or other women. From us they expect a loving wife, clean house, good meals and maybe a few kids. Complaining to him about lack of interest in talking to you will get you absolutely nowhere. Most men are willing to talk about sex and maybe sports. This has gone on for generations and we as mothers and fathers have not taught our young sons any different. Sons mimic their fathers and if your husband was raised with a father he probably is like him in many ways.
2006-09-28 03:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the ugly side of marriage. I hear a lot of men say women change after they marry but I would disagree men change sometimes after marriage. My ex did the same thing after we got married now I didn't have opinions, unless it was about when to have a baby, diapers, pots and pans. Those were the only decisions I could make it. I don't know I think when men get that little paper that says you are married now they want to treat you like you're their property or their child. You can try talking to him about how he's acting and see if that will bring about a change. Good luck.
2006-09-28 03:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first 5 yrs of marriage is going to be hell. So be prepared. Communication is the key to a good marriage. Talk to him about it and don't let this go. When something is wrong with my relationship we have a serious talk. It helps but you have to be civil. You talk first then let him talk. Listen to him and take everything in. This stuff you two are fighting about seems senseless. Stupid stuff. You both have an opinion let each state theirs and then end it at that. Why fight for stupid reasons? I've been there. Good luck!
2006-09-28 03:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's his deal? Whether married or in a serious relationship, each individuals opinions and feelings should be taken into consideration. My BF is often quick to dismiss things I say as "stupid". Or he'll laugh like he is superior to me for having a "better" outlook on something. I usually tell him to F off and never back down on how I feel.
2006-09-28 03:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop asking questions and just cook whatever. about abortion? well that's up to the two of you. use a condom or seek guidance from associations like Planned Parenthood. and religion? as long as you guys believe in the same faith then it's okay to disagree periodically. the point is the "magic" does run in and out of marriage but, as long as the both of you can reconnect with one another then it's a couple!
2006-09-28 03:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by ShaneA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I get what your saying correctly, its that your hubby is not listening to your opinions or feelings. My hubby and I dated for 3 years and have been married 1.5 months & sometimes my hubby just doesn't feel like talking, which I can totally respect & give him his space. When he's ready he comes to me. Give him some time, maybe he's going through something & doesn't feel like discussing it. Remember they always show their best side before you marry them. How long have you been together? You have to think back and see if this is the way he handles himself.....
2006-09-28 03:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Littles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gotten a little too comfortable in those 4 mos. Time to sit him down and hash some things out. You need to communicate about these issues before they fester and make your whole marriage toxic.
Have a calm, intelligent conversation with him about it.
2006-09-28 03:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a garden that needs constant tending to or else it will die. Work some magic and get the marriage garden going, it's just the beginning don't give up so soon.
2006-09-28 03:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by somebody p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was different before you married him? He was putting on a show, a false personality. That was just to "get you", now he feels like he can be himself. Alot of men and women do this, because if they were their true selves from the start, no one would want to be with them. Sounds like you got yourself one of those.
2006-09-28 04:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋