This is a real world sitiation, My girlfirend lives with me, she has a five year old son. Hes been acting up somewaht not too bad but irrating little things sometimes. My girlfriend doesn;t do much as far as discipline. I was raised much differently and I constantly find myself in a frustrated stae by these little acts of poor behavior.
2006-09-28 03:14:56 · 8 answers · asked by bilge77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should talk to her. Try to agree on what's considered unacceptable behavior and how discipline should be handled. Once you decide, make sure that both of you are consistent in the administering and follow through. Don't give the kid an opportunity have a "nice" parent and a "mean" parent. Most importantly, if you don't agree about how to discipline, NEVER be at odds in front of the child or overrule the other parent once a decision has been made. It's very important that you both agree on how to handle situations so you're not manipulated. Kids pick up on a lot and won't hesitate to use it against you when it suits them. The little buggers!
2006-09-28 03:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very delicate situation. First you have to tell yourself is it really the kids behavior that's annoying or is there an underling problem?
If you sort that out and you think its the kid then talk to your partner about it , be care full what you say as this may become a cause for fight.
Tell her that she needs to apply some form of discipline to her child and give her examples. As for spanking its a NO NO! Even if you were the father. Talk about what is appropriate behaviour and what is not.
Good luck
2006-09-28 03:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Evana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they are not too bad and just irritating you need to ignore it. You have to remember he is in a transition stage too. New man in the house.... no daddy there, possibly less attention, maybe a new house, school? He has alot going on. You need to spend time with him doing fun things so he learns to respect you and like you, then you ignore the negative things he does for attention and once he respects you and your girlfriend gives you her permission then start dicsiplining. Like timeout, take toys away, etc... just dont hit him. He will only turn against you.
2006-09-28 03:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your best bet would be to sit them both down at the same time and talk to them about it. Explain how you were raised and the things he does to irritate you. Then discuss how these things can be handled from now on. Make it clear to both of them that you love them very much but can not put up with this behavior from either of them.
2006-09-28 03:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to give her son some discipline and try to change hes behavior,if she doesn't care about that why do u care?it's her child and if she continue with that she will cry some day when her son doesn't wanna listen to her.she have to understeand that this is for the kid's best
2006-09-28 03:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and find out if you are allowed to discipline - and to what degree. If she doesn't allow it, I would move on. If you stay with her, you've got this kid like a thorn in your side the rest of your life. Who the heck wants that?
2006-09-28 03:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, the only thing you can do is tell her and let her handle it. You don't want to upset her by disciplining her kid. If y'all were married it would be different. Since you aren't that is a NO NO
2006-09-28 03:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better talk to her about it. Why don't you get on him a bit? A son needs a dad. Buck up and start doing something about it.
2006-09-28 03:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋