My boyfriend and I have split up after 2 1/2 years. He started a job that is working him 7 days a week, so I told him that he could spend the weekend here so he could spend some time with our 1 1/2 year old son. We've only been split up for a week now, but I know he needs to see our son so I thought this would be the best idea. He still wants to be with me, and I really haven't missed him any. I think we get along better when we aren't together. I don't want him to take this weekend the wrong way. I just want him to be able to spend some time with his son. what do you think?
2006-09-28 02:58:08 · 8 answers · asked by tricksy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i guess its ok.
2006-09-28 03:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by anastasia p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you want and are willing for him to spend time with your child and you should always keep things on at least some kind of friendship level, you have a child that needs both his parents no matter what the living arrangements may be. Spending the weekend together might be tough...make sure you set some kind of ground rules between the two of you so that you both can be comfortable. Good luck....
2006-09-28 03:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's still into you... then perhaps inviting him over for the weekend already starts you guys off on the wrong foot. he might think you feel the same way!
while it's important for him to spend time with his son, you have to be mindful of the mixed feelings/emotions that are involved when you guys have only just broken up. if he's working 7 days a week, he's just going to have to make some time to see the kid. it's not necessary for you to have him under the same roof just for that purpose... unless of course you may be considering some sort of reconciliation. good luck either way!
2006-09-28 03:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by asian chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is working seven days a week, what kind of wuality time is he really spending with your son? Be sure that it is for your son's sake and not your own.
2006-09-28 03:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep in the same bed and try not to give any false signals and most importantly tell him outright not to get the wrong idea.
2006-09-28 03:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really dont want him to get the wrong idea, BE VERY CLEAR ABOUT IT. tell him exactly that: you DONT want any more relations with him. blunt and honest. perhaps somewhat hurtful, but it will spare more pain down the road.
2006-09-28 03:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by missangelica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if possible you could stay with a friend & see how that works out.
2006-09-28 03:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly how you feel. Judy
2006-09-28 03:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by jpearlpeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋