Sex Problems?

Question

I am so worried about my husband's sex drive. I woke up this morning and got him excited I started rubbing his privates it was pretty hard then when we started having sex I couldn't feel a thing. I am not sure what is wrong but I am scared to death of this problem. Are men able to have sex in the morning? We tried before and he couldn't do it. This morning he done the whole works but I just couldn't feel it, it was like it was soft. Same
as other day. I did tell my husband about this a couple of months ago and since then it has ruined him but I wasn't sure what to do. We have been married for 8 years I have really went through this for 8 years although sometimes we do have rocking sex I am just scared our sex is falling apart. My husband is only 35. He does smoke and drinks about 5 soft drinks a day but he won't give up this habit. I bought some lotion stuff off of ebay but isn't helping the problem much I would like to find something that would make him hard so it doesn't feel soft

Answer 1

not to be nasty or anything but have you tried different positions and ways. it might just be the morning thing. my husband has the same problem but its not just the morning. he has a small package but he is okay with it. we have been together for 6 years and we have one child. i noticed the problem early so i would do try other things i noticed that giving him oral first helps a lot but also me being on top or other positions that take the stress off of him allow for a better penetration and also a longer session because he is not as tired.

Answer 2

My husband smokes and drinks at least 5 drinks a day also. He is 8 yrs older than your husband and has no trouble with his erections unless I act like I'm not too excited about the idea. Usually sex is better in the morning unless they have a lot of things on their minds like going to be late for work or are the type of person that may need time to wake up in the morning. Some men just can't pop to attention on command as they get older. Try to be a little patient and do other things to turn your man on before you go for a ride. Some days it just isn't going to be rock hard after all he isn't 18 anymore. Talk to your hubby about it in a positive way and not as a criticism or he will have trouble with the whole thing. If he continues to have problems with it he might have to see a specialist but I think you might have the solution right in your bedroom and it's called you. Buy some toys or sexy outfits, set the mood with candles. Ask your man what he would like and maybe some of his answers will surprise you. There are all kinds of erotic things you can do to make it great for both of you.

Answer 3

I think you should take your husband for a physical to see if there's a medical reason for this situation. It could be a sign of some other condition that neither of you is aware of.

Once you've ruled out that it's medical, I'd sit down and have a talk with him. Approach it from the standpoint that it's a concern for the both of you, not just him. Ask him how he feels about the frequency of the sex; ask him if he's fine with the current amount or if he'd like to have more.

Instead of focusing on trying to keep him hard (which may be very frustrating to him), find out how he's feeling about it. The fact that you're preoccupied with keeping him hard above all else may be making him anxious. Think about it this way: If the situation were reversed, and he was preoccupied with making sure you had an orgasm and didn't care what he had to do for you to have one, I'm pretty sure you'd lose interest and resent his attitude. After all, when one partner is single-minded about sex, sex stops being about the couple and starts being about one person being satisfied. There's no bigger turn off than that.

Answer 4

There's your problem. Smoking and drinks. They both are killing the [NO] in his bloodstream. The [NO] increases the bloodflow, and allows the blood to flow toward and stay in that region so his d!ck can stay hard. Take the cigarettes from him. Let him know that if he wants to fully enjoy that pu$$y, then the nicotine and carbonated drinks gotta f#ckin go. Oh, and maybe sucking his d!ck can help. Sounds obnoxious, but times have changed. Do more things for him. Men are physical creatures. Touch is important.

Answer 5

ok i feel ya here same thing here and same circumstances ok

so what i found out to help alot was his ciculation !! his cholesteral was high and well if your blood is not circulating well then you cant get to hard can you ..so back then he was eating alot of eggs ALOT and alot of pork and stuff with to much oil

so you can start by dramtically redcucing all of this so hey even if his case is different from ours this cutting out the crap is healthy anyway hahah.. it wont get better right away ok give it a week or two and also
i made the grave mistake by i kept talking about it and at the wrong time ..it hurts his ego hahah
and then once we were trying and all was well and it went soft and he said he was so scared that he would go soft again that the stress its self affected him ..he wanted to make love to me and was scared too...so they fear ya know thats their man hood !!!
so dont talk about it in bed!!! ok talk later like over coffee lol
and not to much just small comments like you been feeling better since we changed your food ?
thats it ! he knows he has this problem hes there too !! he dont need us reminding him !!
also my hubby told me somtimes he just wasnt realy in the mood and was tired and realy stressed from work but because he knew i wanted it he would try to get in the mood..
so what we did if he had a stressfull day we would talk allabout it over dinner..NOT IN BED--THE BED IS FOR LOVE ONLY
so then after i started by relaxing him i would give him a body oil message then i would give him the message naked hahah and hed come around hahah ..
ya know if its just somtimes then dont be so concerned he is the same age as my hubby and well hes not 20 anymore hahah they dont have the same metabolism as before hahah
so just have patience so if it does happen let him finish you with his hand or orally and then make sure you express that it was good too and dont be mad ok i mean im sure he wants to make love to you !!!..and dont take it personally !! i did alot and that was wrong !! when a man is horny he is horny and when hes not hes not !! period doesnt matter if he had jennifer lopez in front of him if he is worried or stress and have other things on his mind or health reasons like choloesteral then it just aint gonna happen you have to make him forget about whatever is bothereing him do somthin out of the ordinary ya know ..get his attention hell love you more for your patience !!
oh and if it does start happening more then please go in to the doctor cuz if it is his cholesteral,and its real high ,he can have a stroke !! or another condition well he should be seen if it keeps happening in our case it got better and hasnt happened in years now !! so good love makin to ya ok [e-mail] if you have more personal questions ok and my myspace link is here in my profile too !! take care

Answer 6

Morning sex is the best sex. Maybe try stimulating him a little bit more. Wake him up with a BJ to get him up. Men have big egos so if you sweetly ask what is wrong he may open up. There may be some things going on with him to have him be that way. He may have too much on his mind.

Answer 7

Have him go in for a full physical. You make the appointment, tell him when it is and take him there. Diabetes and high blood pressure will affect sex drive and the ability to maintain an erection. He may try to get out of going-some men don't like to admit to sexual dysfunction or health problems

Answer 8

I urge you to have him get a complete physical asap. Smoking and 5 soft drinks is not good. The possibility of type ll diabetes is a strong possibility; good news is that caught early enough it can be controlled by diet and no more soft drinks containing sugar. The iffy stiffy is a side effect of type ll.

Answer 9

As long as your husband does not have a problem with high blood pressure, GNC has a wonderful vitamin pack for sexual vitality. Give it a try, you may be hiding his vitamins before long just so you can get a break. It take a few days for them to really build up in the system, so don't look for instant results...Good luck...

Answer 10

Smoking, and alcohol will decrease a mans limbido, you failed to mention if he is on any medications, that will also effect his sex drive. Sounds like you are trying hard enough though.
I would also have go see a Urologist to see if there is not an underlying problem that you guys don't know about.

Good luck.