I'v been married a year and thought all was going well, she bought me brekfast in bed, made a point of washing my underpants because it turned her on, treated me as the man and could not get enough of me. I.m 6ft 4''reasonably good looking with a six pack and good under carrige, I also look after myself. I thought married life was for me. All of a suuden the tea, stopped , my underpants were left to Mondays to be washed and my wife lost interest. My freinds wife works with my wife and he told me she was having lunch regulary with a new guy. The new guy is a bit on the tubby side with a bald head and big nose and had a face like haloween Mask. What could she be doing with such a freak, I have not confronted her but have two options; To follow her
and smash the jerk or leave and move on. any other suggestions
2006-09-28 02:49:14 · 19 answers · asked by Redmonk 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have every right to suspect something and find out what is going on! I would pop up one afternoon while lunch and take a seat right beside the two of them. Only been married a year and the honeymoon's already over not good. You shouldn't attack the guy, first find out whats going on between the two of them and go from there.
2006-09-28 02:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... stop focusing solely on yourself! You sound like a narcisistic, self absorved man. No offense intended.
Women like attention and like to be listen to. It's not all about you you know, and for women, emotional attachment is far more important than sex. I'm just being honest.
Perhaps is just lunch, but now you are jeallous of tubby troll face. You want to make it right? LISTEN to her, ask her about her day. Praise her for a change insted of praising yourself as you did above. Be romantic...do you know that word? Once you stop neglecting the emotional part of a relationship, the s ex will return.
I'm sure that my advice would be useful.
Good luck
2006-09-28 10:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about this? One day, follow them to lunch and confront them both. There's a decent chance he may not know about you, so there's no point in beating his *ss until you know (wedding rings do come off). Also, if something is going on and you're as big as you say you are, you're likely to scare him off. Then she's left with no one (I'm assuming you'll leave). Kinda like poetic justice.
2006-09-28 09:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife. This is one of the main things that destroy a marriage. Gossip. You can't take what someone tells you about your wife. Talk to her for yourself or follow her to see what's going on. Maybe your wife got tired of doing things for you and you were not doing anything in return. Like saying, I appreciate all that you do and do all those special little things. Think about have you been doing your part besides keeping yourself up.
2006-09-28 10:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold it before moving on, you love her and if she loves you there is something obvisouly wrong with the marriage already for her to look elsewhere. Why don't you ask her upfront what she is upto and if she lies tell her you know. If she continues tell her you want out, and if she wants to stop and work it out counseling is for you both. I know you're angry as hell and punching him out might land you in jail! Do you want that? Seriously this might end up hurting you more, and if you leave move on the choice is yours.
2006-09-28 09:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's giving her breakfast in bed and washing her underpants because it turns Him on.
He's probably just a buddy. I would off this advice, don't be self-centered even if she's pampering you. Make sure you pay attention to her, or you will lose her.
2006-09-28 10:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before you smash anyone
you di not say what you do for you're wife!!!!
can you see what she's doing
what's wrong with you????
she spoiled you alot because in return she might like to feel this
way.c'mon
it goes both way,she give you .....you give her
you have a chance to show her that make it work
90%of woman cheat because they feel after all the effort
they invest in the relationshion don't always pay off...
don't loose that
good luck
isabelle
2006-09-28 10:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me the problem is with u,not her.sounds like shes had enough of your obviously,arragent demeanour.and like anyone would,shes looking for someone who treats her decently.the new bloke maybee ugly on the outside,maybee she sees u as ugly on the inside.which one is more ugly?i suggest u look past appearances,and maybee look at what it is that is making u appear ugly.one thing i've noticed in life,a happy girl in a relationship doesnt tend to look 4 comfort in another.
2006-09-28 10:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mark B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about the guy at work. If you trust her when she says nothing is going on, try doing things for her like bringing her breakfast in bed, buying her flowers, and rubbing her feet, or something. I know I would get sick of doing really nice things for my guy and him not doing anything for me in return.
2006-09-28 09:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by puoL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When she sees what she's lost then she'll come running back. They almost always do. Don't you hate that? Makes you wonder what it was you did wrong. I say leave and move on. When she finds out about you dating another woman or sees you with another woman, she'll be crazy jealous.
2006-09-28 09:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋