We are together for only two months and I have realised that this is not what I want.He has no idea how I feel and he's doing everything he can to please me. I know that if I tell him I want to end our relationship it will tear him apart!He is a really nice guy, very sensitive and romantic. But it's just not working.Help!!!
2006-09-28 02:33:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know this sounds corny but it will hurt him alot less just to tell him now rather than wait and you give him false hope and hurt him alot more later... you could even tell him that... say that there is nothing wrong with him but when you know you just know (you know when he's "the one" and you know when he's "NOT the one") and it would be better to remain friends and end it now rather than lie and ruin the entire relationship... he will respect you alot more in the long run... no matter how bad he hurts at the moment
2006-09-28 02:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by kssunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've found the perfect guy.He's nice,sensitive,caring,and will do anything for you.Most women are searching for a guy just like him,yet you are willing to just let him go without really giving him a fair chance.But,if you really think you can find someone else with the same qualities,and good luck to you with that,then you need to let this guy know that you don't feel the same way about him,and give him the chance to find one of the many women out there who will appreciate him and take him seriously.There's no avoiding hurting his feeling,but try doing it in a nice,caring,sensitive way,the way he would probabaly be if the tables were turned.Just make sure this is absolutely what you want to do,because once you burn your bridges,there's no going back.
2006-09-28 03:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with it in a straight forward way is the best thing. You may think that you will tear him apart... but that is probably just your ego.
Even if it isn't, and it is true. He will be better off if you end it sooner than later.
If you need break up ideas, try something based on this concept:
If you have a sick toe, and the doctor tells you that you have to amputate your foot at the ankle, you should do it. Because, if you leave it... you are going to have to amputate it at the knee or even the hip, if you leave it for later.
Tell him that your toe is sick.
2006-09-28 02:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuneatly, you really can't do it without hurting him. :-( You can do it with respect and make it easier on him. Sit down in a public place maybe a coffee shop so he can't act too emotional. Tell him you enjoyed your time together but feel you need spend some time by yourself to figure out where you are going in life and what you want. Don't blame him or be critical to how he's been in the relationship.
Good Luck!
Oh and don't say "we can be friends", not a good thing to hear from a guy perspective.
2006-09-28 02:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be honest with him. It will hurt him, but you might be able to make him realize that it will be more hurtful to him in the long run if you were to stay together and you didn't feel the same as him. Anytime a break-up occurs because one person feels more strongly than the other it is going to hurt. If you are honest with him, he will realize that you are doing a good thing.
2006-09-28 02:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Abby06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be honest with him. He is gonna be hurt regardless of how you tell him. But he will appreciate you being honest with him in the long run. You have to live your life for you not other people and if you feel he is not the one for you then you must move on instead of just staying there and being miserable
2006-09-28 03:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly need to tell him soon. Don't let this go on as it will only get worse for both of you. It will hurt him, there is not doubt about that. But if it is not there, then it's not there. I'm sure he wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with him (even though it will hurt). If it's not there, you can't make it be there. You have to do what is right for you.
2006-09-28 02:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by bplessard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him the truth with so much care. Say to him that u need to say something and you need his help cause it will be so difficult to he understands cause you can't understand what is happening either. Say to him that he is the best thing what happened in your life and you don't wanna lose his friendship ever. Say that you love him but as a so dear and special friend and that you will always be there whenever he needs.
I know is easy to say it here and difficult when it happens really with us. But you can't hide the truth. So take him to a beautiful place and say to him everything you need to.
I hope have helped you.
Good luck :)
2006-09-28 02:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is no happy ending... you either tell him or stay in the relationship.... unhappy. take him out to dinner and ex plane to him you two just are not looking for the same things in life, and maybe some day you two will be on the same page
2006-09-28 02:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you want to take a break and that you think that it will do the both of you some good
2006-09-28 02:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by florence_molly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋