Hi it’s me agene so I have told my sister that im transgender?

Question

Hi it’s me agene so I have told my sister that im transgender like
Most of you suggested before she come’s and visits me in 2 months time.
It did not go the way I expected it to go she asked me what that meant so
I told her and then she asked me for a pic and I haven herd from her
And she doesn’t want to answer my calls, what should I do?

Answer 1

give it time, like i said last time its hard for family to accept quickly but if she loves then she will accept you but it will take some time. dont push the issue on her let her come to accept it in her time.

if you hadnt told her can you imagine the reaction that she would have had when she saw you in person?
it took my mother 3 years to come to terms with it, we talked but she was very very uncomfortable but in time she accepted it and we are close again.

good luck. what ever happens dont try to change to make her happy, you gotta make yourself happy.

i tried that and it almost cost me my life cause i was miserable

Answer 2

First, don't be too disappointed if she doesn't come in two months after all. But you can certainly be happy if she does, but add a dose of caution because she may have some words to unload that will not make you happy.

Your sister grew up with a brother, not a sister, so this is quite a shock. Men who like men and women who like women is strange enough, but a man who becomes a woman, well, have you heard the expression "cognative dissonance"? In other words, some things are simply too strange for some to imagine, which is why she wanted a picture.

I know someone who is waiting for an opportunity to make such a change, but he plans to fully disappear and make his, excuse me, her new life essentially from scratch. He, sorry, figures on coming back to the neighborhood where some of his relatives are and reintegrate simply as new friends. I think that is kind of gutsy, acting surprised at old stories and biting the lip when they talk about the one that is missing. I suggested that they would probably talk about him that anyway when he is no longer a he. Frankly, I think it is an idea with merit, but it appears to be too late for you since with your picture sent, your family already knows what you look like.

Patience, friend, patience.

Answer 3

Just hang in there, be true to yourself. When my sister told me she was marrying her boyfriend cuz they were pregnant, I was so mad (he just wasn't good enough) I didn't talk to her for a whole 2+years. I missed the first 2 years of my first neice's life! I ended up in a car accident which made me realize how big an *** I'd been. It was a hard appology to make, but she was just so happy to see me. Hopefully your sister will come around without sacrificing a couple of years for pride or arrogance sake.
I'm not sure what that Jesus comment was about, how do you know this person isn't Christian or something already?

Answer 4

Seek Jesus. Your sister is hurt. She apparently doesn't agree with your choosen lifestyle. Just let her come around. I am sure she loves you. However, you have to understand where she is coming from. Being a transgender or homosexual is a hard life to live I assume. But, hearing that a loved one is experiencing this is sometimes harder because usually the lifestyle is viewed by some religions to be against God's call for man/woman.

Answer 5

Be your-self
You are what you are
If your sister dosn't want to come be fine with it
As everyone just told me it takes time for people to cope she may come round but if she dosn't don't be up set by it
If you have not seen you sister for two years it might be time you did maybe it is time to go back home but only if you are ready

Family is something you have even if you don't want it
The love of a family can not out way the love one needs for ones self
But your sister is your sister and if you want to see her let her come to you
good luck it is not easy

Answer 6

Wait, something like this takes time to absorb. Give her time and don't worry. Be perpared for some ackward questions, and for denial of who you are and have your answers ready. Take the time you have now to mediate, center yourself and perpare. Be strong. Remember that you have exploded a bomb in her world at the moment so it will take her time to adjust. You can always write a letter if you don't get any response and take it from there. Mostly just relax and perpare yourself for the next couple of hurdles.

Answer 7

This was a shock so give her time to absorb all of this. If you haven;t heard from her in a week or two, call her and ask if she's ok. And that you missed hearing from her.

Answer 8

Just wait. Give her some time to work it out herself. Sometimes family can be very stubborn. Don't beat yourself up over it. You didn't do anything wrong. Just wait for her to call you back. If she doesn't then try again in about 2 months.

Answer 9

Sounds like she needs some time to warm up to the idea. Your decision has probably put some doubts in her own head about her own sexuality. You could assure her that your decision has no bearing on HER sexuality.

Answer 10

Just give her a little time.She will call or write mabe she will be angry or not.Just try to understand if she say nasty things,you had a longer time to come to terms with it,but she hasn't.