I know that it is totally wrong for a married man and woman to see other married people. In my case I had a kiss and madeout with a common married guy friend who I have known from 6 years. We had the kiss like almost 3 years ago. And since then, everytime we see each other at parties or public, we always gaze into each other. I notice he will talk and then look me in my eyes and smile softly and then we both maintain that smile for the longest time. he also likes to look me in the eyes as much as he can. I like him too. We have confessed to liking each other but not being able to take it further because of our marriages. WHenever I write to him which is usually few times a week, he always AlwayS replie me back in full detail giving me even more than i asked for! But my question is if one night we were together and I asked him to close the door after our intense looking and tension, he backed away saying it;s not right. Next morning in front of his wife and my hub he hugged me
2006-09-28 02:20:03 · 7 answers · asked by katezambelli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
without letting go in silence. To be frank I was a little upset cause he backed away the night before so i was surprised and i pushed at him when he hugged me that morning. But he kept hugging me firmly and for a long time. It wasn't a hug like he was done with me either, this was a long, close hug where we both didn't care who was looking kind of. But why did he hug me that morning so long?? and why does he even now after 5 months of not seeing me and one day coming up he will look me in my eye and we stare again? What does it mean when he gazes in my eyes?
2006-09-28 02:22:28 · update #1
very difficult to answer !
2006-09-28 02:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire and need to leave it alone. He is right in saying that it is not right. My ex and my best friend were caught kissing by me on the couch in my home with my children in their rooms. He is no longer a friend and she is no longer my wife, but a kiss is so intimate and I can not even tell you how bad that hurt to see the two of them having a deep passionate kiss. I think I could have handled them in bed better than the kissing. You are running the risk of doing to your husband and his wife what was done to me. Stop and quit the looks, the touches and the flirting, you are playing a very dangerous game.
2006-09-28 09:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah.ok im not a counselor but it sounds like he can give you something that your husband cant, and the same probably goes for him towards you.he only hugged you in front of them to make it seem like nothing is going on.cheating isnt right no matter what, but if you arent happy and you think you could be with him then tell him. at least you will know the truth.and dont worry about your husband.hes probably a smart man. he will realize thatyou werent happy with him and if he really loves you then he will understand. if you really love someone, you just want them to be happy.
2006-09-28 09:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ut is wrong for a married woman/man to see another married man/woman. u also know that ? evrybody knows then why r you in dilemma? aask urself is it fair for you to do that whom you jsut gazed a few times. then what about your married life ?
the last few lines you have written shows that he also know the difference and doesnot dare to hurt his wife in any way but hugging you shows he is trying to create a melodrama in everybody`s life
the another thing he did with his hugging was he said sorry to you a compensation to you for hurting your feelings . he also showed that he is slowly putting on guts against his wife . But anither question he raised for you is " are you ready for everything every consequence?
the craze you have showen looks like an infactaution/mere attraction to me . it may mean alot for you know but what about future
if he can confess his feelings for liking you then why dont you go and ask him that why he is gazing at you? he answer you that
i know i am putting a lot of questions to you but that is the reality of life
think ? think for yourself and for your family tooo?
all the best.
2006-09-28 09:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's an advice that i'm sure 99% of the people will say to you........ forget him. don't get too intimate with him. you are both married. the past is the past. don't dwell on it. be ashamed of what you did before.
i'm sure you don't need to be a rocket scientist to figure the answer for your question.
2006-09-28 09:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's apparent to me that he's pulling your chain.. he sounds like quite the game player. I'd get on with my life, if I were you.. he's manipulating you. Be the better person and YOU walk away. Get those hormones in check!!
2006-09-28 09:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is an outrageous flirt and you should give him the cold shoulder from now on.
2006-09-28 09:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋