How would you handle your mother not liking your husband?

Answer 1

What are the circumstance as to why she doesn't like him?
If he is abusive, or mistreats her daughter that is understandable.
Lazy, disrespectful or perhaps, into drugs, maybe he is an alcoholic... You would need to give us more info if you would like an educated answer.
Most parents want whats best for their children..... even though you might be too close to the forest to see the trees... perhaps your mother has a clearer vision of him. It is the most gut wrenching thing to watch your children go through a painful, destructive unhealthy relationship.
I am sure you are your parents precious princess and they want to protect you.
If he is the perfect mate and has been good to you. Perhaps your mom is just having a hard time adjusting to your new life. Be patient with her and keep her involved she loves you... It will just take time.

Answer 2

I know all girls want their mother to accept their husbands, but all mother's won't. The most important thing rather than liking him, is that she al least respects him. You don't have to like someone in order to show them the common decency of respect. If your mother doesn't show him respect, then there must be a good reason why. Is your mother watching him disrespect you? A mother will always brood over her children especially if they think that they aren't being treated right. Make sure your husband checks himself around your mother.

Answer 3

I would assume that your mother has her reasons for disliking your husband.
Do you know what those reasons may be?

I think the best thing you can do is show your mother how ‘happy’ your husband makes you, and how well he takes care of you.
Your happiness is no doubt very important to your mother, and eventually, when she realises how happy your husband makes you, she will come to accept him.

You should perhaps talk to you mother, and explain to her that whilst you love her very much, you would really appreciate it if she could give your husband a chance to prove himself, and accept him as being your choice of a lifetime partner.
Hopefully, your mother’s reasons for disliking him won’t be proven to be true !
Good luck !!!

Answer 4

Granted, eveyone has their own opinions about everything. But your husband is YOUR husband. If you like him and are happy with him, she should respect that. As long as she doesn't disrespect him all of the time, she just has to get the idea that you two are together. She has to accept that at some point in time.

Hold ya head up. Don't sweat it. She may appreciate what he brings to the table of your relationship and come around.

Answer 5

(It actually depends on the circumstances) but If my Mother didn't like my husband for some really stupid reason she would have a very long lonely road ahead! I put my husband 1st before anyone else in my life! If he isn't welcome then I am not welcome. I married my husband because I Loved him and chose to spend the rest of my life with him. If my Mother can not accept that then it is her problem to deal with. She would be pushing me away as well. You can not chose your family but you can chose to not associate with them. I do not let anyone run my life! Family or other wise. If they can't accept what makes me happy then they really do not care about my happiness...you have to accept and deal with what makes your children happy...you can not tell them how to live their lives forever regardless how you feel.

Answer 6

Ask your mom if she wants you to be happy with your life, and make sure she knows that this man is the one that makes you happy and that you love him. Maybe tell her things that she has in common with your husband and tell her all of the sweet and thoughtful things he does for you. If they couldn't get along after that, I may just keep them separated. Maybe not the best phase of action, but it could possibly prevent arguments and more disliking. You should try more things before taking it that far because he is a part of your family now. Oh, tell her that too!

Answer 7

that is just something you would have to deal with in a mature matter, because for one you dont want to be disrepectful to your mother but at the same time you are married and you dont want to get to the point where you have to choose because it wont work, i know every woman would love for there mother to like there boyfriends or husbands but sometimes it doesnt work that way. maybe try to point out some good qualities about hi to her, ask him to maybe sit down with her to find out why, then maybe she will see he not such a bad guy..there are ways around this ...good luck

Answer 8

Theres no way to handle...the best way is to ignore any negative outbreaks from her.. It may take a whole load of time..(years)..
Like love, theres noway of forcing someone to like..it'll have to come from within and as cold hearted as any woman in the world would be...one day she'll cave in..

Be patient..dont run...coz ull just regret it...

Just be it..each day will be okay...
U will hurt...ur husband will...maybe when u have kids (or do u have already) it'll be better..

Good luck

Answer 9

Your mother is the more important, because husbands and wives can be replaced, but never a mother or brother or sister!

Answer 10

You never should have married a man that your mother didn't like.

If she did like him, but has stopped liking him, find out why.

Then take actions based on the current situation. Urge both parties to take steps to change, and then urge a compromise.

If you married a man that your mother did not like. Shame on you. You deserve this. Blood it thicker than water.