My fiance and I are getting married in may. his surname is pudmenzky and his father, mother and brother are the only people in australia with that name. Now his father walked out on his mother at christmas two years ago to be with some random french chick half his age. His brother is gay so my partner and I are the only hope to carry on this name. But his whole family (who havn't spoken to the father since it happened) think we shouldn't carry on the name so we could really get every part of him out of our life. My step fathers surname is schneider and it keeps with the german aspect of my partners heritage, so we think to use that. My mum isn't too sure though but I would love to have the same surname as my mum again.. Boring question, I know but what are your thoughts? Keep it, take on my stepdads surname or choose adifferent name altogether and if so , any suggestions? Cheers!
2006-09-28 02:10:52 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's totally up to your fiance since it is his father. I personally don't think you should make a big decision like that out of spite. What if, in a few years, your fiance and his father make up....are you going to change it again? This is a really hard question. I hope I helped!
2006-09-28 02:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Smiles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a little on the nutty side - no offense intended with that. The dudes son, your finance, has half his genes from the father. What's in a name? It's the least of the father's legacy. Every family has its black sheep and that is no reason to have fits over the name of the family...life goes on, new generations move in and up. I'm sure that you and your finance will produce heirs that are perfectly fine people. Besides, it is a problem to get a name changed legally. I don't think all this hoopla is worth it, and is not really necessary.
2006-09-28 09:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by sonyack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your fiance think, it is his name that he has had all his life, and even if he does change it, it is not going to change the fact that this man is and will always be his father. His family should stay out of that decision, it has to ultimately be your fiance's decision.
Oh and by the way, you may not be the only one to carry on the family name, you did say that his father hooked up with a woman 1/2 his age, who knows!!!!
2006-09-28 09:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At this point you're not actually carrying on the fathers name as much as you are carrying on your husbands name. Regardless of what the father did, your husband IS a Pudmenzky (snicker) And that, I believe is what you'd want to give to your children. The honor that comes with your husbands name. Old fashioned maybe, but you see my point.
2006-09-28 09:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by andi b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep it Pudmenzky. Just because his dad did wrong doenst mean you should take the name and get rid of it. If you are the only ones to carry it on,,,wouldnt you want to??? Who cares what his dad did,,,has nothing to do with the name,,has to do with what type of person he is.
2006-09-28 09:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the beauty of these days is that you can choose whatever name you like.
If your partner is happy to change it to Scheider and you like it to -then why not go for it?!
2006-09-28 09:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by sarahlmann2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to change your last name to your husband's after getting married, but if you do, I think take his step dad's last name.
2006-09-28 09:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it....
2006-09-28 09:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋