2006-09-28 01:27:32 · 6 answers · asked by Aficianado 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
By thinking that you might have to deal with them for a long time, therefore try accepting them as they are. If not, you might end up ruining your own nerves - it might be slightly easier for them because they will leave from this life before you do. So In the end, by accepting them you will do a great favour to yourself rather then to your inlaws.
2006-09-28 01:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One cannot get over the 'fact', but surely a person can get over the residual negativity of such fact !
There are many people in this world with whom a person cannot get along well ! It is just that some of them also happen to be inlaws ! The freedom of doing what is needed in the outside situation need not curb or even relate to how we feel towards that person !
A good police officer feels proud of loyalty to duty to arrest an erring person even if he happens to be his own son (doesn't mean he ceases to love his son)!
Just try to view these inlaws as normal people, but right now they are not compatible with you. That way, the inside of you will become very cheerful, and may perhaps pave way to improve the compatibility.
2006-09-28 08:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to give things and honest effort with them and if you don't get along don't beat yourself up over the head. You and your husband will have to compromise. Concentrate on your family. I am not sure about the reasons you don't like them or I could help you more.
2006-09-28 08:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by anna b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean that your in-laws are not likeable? In that case you need to be a politician. Nobody just marries a person, they marry into the family, too. That's just a fact of life.
2006-09-28 08:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this. If you have tried (as I have) and you still don't like them or how they treat you, talk to your spouse about it. perhaps your spouse can talk to them about it, or you can all discuss it together. You can't change them but you might be able to change how you interact and you can change how you feel about it...limit interactions with them as much as possible...'kill them with kindness' or politeness when you are around them...focus on other things and people, especially those that you like and bring you happiness...also, learn more about cognitive therapy either through books or online or a licensed professional therapist...good luck, you have my sympathies
2006-09-28 08:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant..otherwise get a divorce
2006-09-28 08:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋