son had to have some tests done and he said he would pay for it...i had to write a check and he was going to give me cash the next day...well he didnt as usual and my bank acct went overdrawn. Now all I can think about is REVENGE...i hate him he is the worst father and im ashamed I even married him. He is going to have to pay for this one....anyone else have these problems and how did u handle it..........please dont tell me to pray...tthat doesnt work for me
2006-09-28 01:26:22 · 23 answers · asked by forbidnfruit_420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to Allen: I dont think so...that idiot wouldnt even have a clue how to turn a computer on...if he even knows what that is
2006-09-28 01:33:21 · update #1
Didn't the court require your ex to provide health insurance? I thought that was mandatory. If he isn't holding up that part of the agreement, you need to notify your lawyer or your ex's employer that he is suppose to have your son covered. You should have an insurance card for your son to prove that he is covered.
If you have to take him to court for his lack of responsibility for providing for *his* son, that might be a nice revenge right there!
If you tell your ex these are your plans, will he straighten up and take care of the situation that he should have done long ago. It's gonna cost him a lot more in the long run if he doesn't step up and pay the bill and add the son to his medical insurance.
Good luck!!
2006-09-28 01:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO to your state Child Support Enforcement Office and FILE for Back Child Support -- take your order with you, and ASK for a Modification at the same time.
This is the ONLY way to handle this problem and have the State work with you on this case.
Make sure you do this now -- before the child turns 18 -- because I can assure you, that as a Divorcee myself, who has an Ex-Spouse that does NOT pay his court-ordered shares of the costs - that the non-payment Case Filed by the State WILL stay open forever, racking up interest on the unpaid balance, and when he is found, he WILL have to pay that amount to you via direct payments from his employer.
More and More, states outside of California are getting more aggressive in pursuing these 'deadbeat dads' and not only are there financial penalties -- but also jail time for NOT supporting their children.
Just wish that California would Get on the same page as Michigan, Florida, and other states from the East Coast!
2006-09-28 08:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tag - forbidnfruit-420 - suggests that you may have problems more serious than just an overdrawn bank account. I would bet that, overall, your life is not going well and that it's time you took a "time out" to assess your situation and develop a plan for improving it. There's a lot of anger, mistrust, and lack of self-confidence going on. But, that doesn't mean you're a bad person. Be good to yourself and fall back on your trusted friends and family members for help in finding a competent therapist. Don't put this off. You've got a lot of life left - don't waste it on "REVENGE" and retribution.
2006-09-28 08:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him back to court....Keep your recipts and the judge will more than likely find in your favor. I have had a couple of friends (both male and female) that are going through exactly what you are going through. All you can do is get an attorney and fight him in court. If it is court ordered that he keeps insurance on him and didn't he will be held in contempt and the judge WON'T look at that too kindly.
2006-09-28 08:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the doctor to a) send your husband the bill in the future, b) advise the court that he is not living up to his part of the divorce decree and c) get some insurance for yourself. I know it is expensive but find a way. You are going to get hung out on this if you don't.
2006-09-28 08:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Gary E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states have a provision in the divorce decree that make an apprpriation for health insurance for the children. I would start by reviewing that agreement. If your not divorced and he was just a bf, I would contact an attorney and seek child support. Remember he is not supporting you, he is supporting his child. The state will also help you with that.
2006-09-28 08:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope u know u cant trust him now so to avoid any further disasters for u financially like this make him pay up front also u can get help through the court if he wont pay back the money. he will probably just deny that he said hed pay when u get him in court but you can make sure he cant get away with it again.
2006-09-28 08:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I sure can feel your anger. I don't have a lot of advice to offer, but I can just reach out to give you a little moral support. I am sure you are trying hard to be a good mom. And I know that as a woman your money is always tight. Just remember that you are never alone in this struggle. There are many women out here who have been down this road too. On behalf of all of us, I send you our love, our understanding, and our support. Hang in there. We are with you.
2006-09-28 08:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and give him the reassurance that it is really his son eventhough you guys broke up. Just make him feel and yearn for his son. If he gets to meet the kid very often, then subtley try to avoid sometimes , that way he might start feeling that he is his son and wants to meet him more and wants to be fair with his expenses and all.
2006-09-28 08:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by mapleleafydude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Court.
2006-09-28 08:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋