What is the best way to break up with your girlfriend?

Question

I don't know if i still love her or what....

Answer 1

be honest

Answer 2

Well if you don't know if you love her anymore tell her. Face to face is the only decent way to break up with someone, any other way is just cowardly and hurts more. Go to her place so you can leave when you want. Don't do the typical bloke thing and find a reason to start a fight so it's easier to break up with her. Just tell her you need to talk and say you don't know if you love her anymore and you think it'll be best to call it a day. If you realise you love her after a month of being away from her, at least you won't have ended it on bad terms and can maybe go back.

A lot of people will look at you and think what a b*stard for breaking her heart but really, you're doing her a favour because it'd be worse if you stay and don't love her. At least when she gets over you, she can move on and will find someone that will love her back. It's just as hard for the one doing the breaking up so good luck

Answer 3

If you still loved her you wouldnt even be considering breaking up with her. So maybe at the end of the day it will be for the best. Dont do as a child what many men do and jus either
1. ignore her and stop answering her calls
2.stay with her and lead a single life i.e. begin cheating
3.Jus tell her its over and walk away
Jus show some respect and explain why you dont want 2 be with her anymore. Be a man. But if you really want an effect tell her youl love her no matter what. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Actually, it depends on the length of the relationship, the age of those in the relationship and the type of relationship that has been going on.

If you are a 15 year old, then you probably would break up with them by just blurting it out, and moving on. However, if you are 30 years old and in the relationship for a few months or longer, you would want to sit them down, and not just break up with them, but explain why (so they do not have to spend years in bad relationships because they are in turmoil over "did I do this or should I have done that??".

So it really depends on the above factors in knowing how to properly advise breaking up with someone.

But there is one thing that is important no matter what variables are present-- HONESTY. Be honest with her and tell her why you want to break up. If you do not know if you still love her or not, you have to realize that once you break up with her, it is over-- and there is no changing your mind. But just the fact that you do not know if you still love her or not, indicates that you truly do not still love her- if you did, there wouldn't be any uncertainty.

Answer 5

First of all you need to clarify whether you love her or not - the fact that you might want to finish with her, makes me think you don't. Then imagine her in 2-3 months time dating someone else and see how that makes you feel - because that is what will probably happen if you do split up. If you are going to finish with her, be honest and tell her how you feel. Too many people tell fibs to make it easier but it usually backfires in the long run.

Answer 6

I guess the best to look at the situation, would be to work out if you still care for the girl first of all, if you do, then you need to sit down face to face and talk to her frankly about all the reasons as to why you dont feel your relationship is working, be straightforth and honest with her, give her clear reasons as to why you are feeling this way - unless it involves another woman/man, then be as tactful as possible without hurting her further.......then try your best to break contact with her for a while.......

Answer 7

Call her and tell her that you have to make a serious talk about you two. Then when you meet her explain everything to her. Give her all your reasons and tell her your opinion about this relationship, but be careful not to hurt her too much. Don't put the blame on her. She will be hurt of course, but try to give her as less pain as possible.
If you already have another girlfriend, don't tell this to her. Don't blame her about your break up, don't make her feel guilty, cause she is the one being dumped!

Answer 8

Please don't do it like this:

Go to her friend/housemate and ask how she'll take it. Avoid her all day long after days of never leaving her alone until you got what you wanted. Hope the friend tells her. Then be ashamed when you realize the friend will only warn her, not tell her, so you end up telling her.

Please DO be honest.

If you ever loved or liked someone you A. don't want to get a bunch of big guys mad at you for treating her bad; B. you don't want to see her with someone worse as a rebounder. If you're honest, you'll help her not repeat her mistakes.

Answer 9

You have to be honest, that's the bottom line. If your feelings for her have changed then you have to tell her before you do something you'll regret later. Sometimes people are so scared to hurt the feelings of someone they care about that they do things that will hurt them more.. In your case you need to move on if you feel its time but don't string her along she deserves to move on too. It might take her a while longer but at least she'll know that you were honest with her and had enough respect for her to let her go with as much care as possible.

Answer 10

First assure her of your love and tell her that you are no longer attracted to her intimately anymore and let her know that even if you are ending the intimate relationship it does not mean that you are discarding the mutual friendship because in most instances you find yourself in a relationship that would not take you any where and for fear of hurting the other party you stay, but my advice is for you to be honest. the sooner she knows the better rather than frustrating her with a lot of unkept promises. I guess in the depth of your heart you know what you want to do that is why you are asking.

Answer 11

Instead of making it a permanent break-up, why not try a couple of weeks away from each other. This will give you time alone and where you can decide if you are still in love with her.