My younger sister, (20yrs) wanted to come on holiday with us next week so I said fine and paid her part of the deposit. Yesterday she told me that she had changed her mind. I contacted the travel people who told me that I woulsdstill have to pay for her as is was late notice. I told my sister that she would still have to pay and now she has gone crying to our mother over it. My mum now says that I should pay for my sister as I earn more than she does. The thing is if I pay her share it will leave me short and if I insist on getting the money from her then neither her nor my mum will speak to me as they are so close. Help?????????
2006-09-28 01:15:02 · 34 answers · asked by Dave 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, I am sorry that your sis put you in this situation. However, you will have to pay the travel agent as YOU entered into a contract with them. However, I would suggest that you communicate to both your sister and your mum that your sister's indecision put you in a tough spot both emotionally and financially. ASK if your sister could pay you back (at least partially) to help aleievate the financial stress this put you under.
2006-09-28 01:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by sm2f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 20 years of age she should be mature enough to make her own decisions and to handle the consequences. If she agreed about going on holiday with you and that she would pay for it, then she should pay!
Tell your mum your situation calmly. Tell her that your sister is being very selfish and is acting like a spoilt brat! Which she is! Whether you earn more or not is not the point, the point is that your money is spoken for and you cannot afford to pay excess money when she is being so fickle. You demand to be refunded because it doesnt matter whether she is family or not, it will be your finances in a mess and she won't want to know.
Take your sister to a tribunal if she refuses to pay you back as it is what you both very agreed! That is as binding as a written contract. I suggest you leave your sister to her own devices and not offer her anything as this situation shows she is not mature enough to handle life as an adult instead of running to mommy to sort her out.
Try and get someone else to go on holiday with you but which ever way you look at it, your sister owes you money!
Be firm and do not back down!
Good luck!!!
2006-09-28 05:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by babybitch69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 20 shes not a baby - you were willing to help her out by paying her deposit which was nice of you - shes now trying to screw you!
Tell your mother that you had been generous enough to pay the deposit, and now with your sister pulling out that if you have to pay the remainder of the fee that you wont be able to enjoy your holiday.
Your mother maybe close to your sister - but you're her child also. She needs to look at it from a centre point of fairness.
Is there anyway you can sell the ticket on to someone else?
2006-09-28 02:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried seeing if you could get her name transferred to a friend of yours who would be willing to cover the cost?
If that isn't a possibilty - I would have a word with your Mum and suggest that if she feels that your Sister should not be taught to live up to the consequences of her actions and her commitments then she should pay the money - not you. Failing any of that, don't buy them any presents for for the next year and that will re-coup your loss.
Whatever you decide - make it clear to both your Sister and Mum that money and family do not mix and not to expect you to do anymore favours for them.
Harsh perhaps - but it will highlight what stinker they are both being.
Hope that helps.
2006-09-28 01:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Forgetful 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a visit to the travel agency and talk to them in person and see if they can redirect the money into a trip for you. Next time your sister wants to visit, let her come up with the money to do so. Your mother needs to tell your sister she's an adult and set the example of how a mature adult acts.
2006-09-28 01:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
andy...i really do understand ur situation and i know how it feels...but i think it will be gud if u go ahead and pay on behalf of ur sister as she is younger to u and more than everything she is ur sister..u got to take responsibilites..girls are always like that..u can't help it .. and moreover if u let her to pay the rest of the amt. she might start disliking u and this wud not lead to a healthy relationship b/w u and ur sister....make the payment and spk with ur sister regarding this and make her realise that wat she did was a mistake...that is when the bonding wud become more stronger and who knows ur sister might give bac the entire amt to u...but plz do not let ur sister pay...i am telling this for ur good...u can always earn money but u cannot get bac ur sisters love if it is lost...hope this has helped u..take care and all the best...bye
2006-09-28 01:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by bryan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult (?)
It is time to grow away from mum.
Sis should pay her own way, whether she goes or stays.
I would pay for myself and go on the holiday. If mum didn't like it, I would avoid her on the trip and try to enjoy myself, on my own.
If you are thinking about bowing out...
Forget it!!! Mum and your sister will take your ticket and have a great time.
Some family (?)
2006-09-28 01:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I would not get involved in a problem like this between my children, or certainly not take sides, your sister is in the wrong, she should pay you. She is acting like a spoilt brat, and your mother is not helping her in allowing her to behave in this mannor, she obviously does this alot.
If you were my kids, I would tell you both to sort it, and tell your sister, she is in the wrong, she should pay, but not have any further part in the matter.
2006-09-28 16:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is ridiculous. You did say she was 20, right? She should bl**dy well pay for herself. Whatever the difference in your incomes, this should have no bearing on the matter. Your Mother is quite wrong to even suggest that you should pay! Maybe sit her down at your PC and get her to read these messages!
2006-09-28 02:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll get over it eventually, you were nice enough to pay the deposit, she needs to learn some responsibility as an adult, she should have paid her own way in full. If you allow this she will continue thinking it is okay, and she can get away with it.
2006-09-28 01:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋