I have a friend who always ignores me when i talk to him and is grumpy to those around him, i am his only friend however he'll only have the people he works with to talk to, should i bother or not (because i don't think i should)?
2006-09-28 01:02:01 · 23 answers · asked by sunset_bridge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he does nothing to enhance you as a person, and is actually having the opposite affect, then no, you shouldn't stay friends with him.
2006-09-28 01:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello in the da.
I think sometimes we are friends with people for reasons other than we like them or they like us. The problem is i think when we expect to get something in return and then realise that our friendship isn't based on the mutual liking of each other. Perhaps you are friends with him because you want to take responsibility for him. I don't think there's anything wrong with that by the way, it probs means you just have compassion and love in ya heart. If he has cut himself off from everyone by being grumpy then praps he wants to be on his own. You might consider that he is just a loner and doesn't want people to be friends with, and then again he may be mentally ill. I think this is a really hard question, and i like you would be worried about any damage i might do by letting the friendship slide.
If this person is constantly rude to you then i think you should tell him when he does it. Just say 'you know that's very rude' or 'that's very hurtful' or 'why are you so grumpy towards me when I'm just trying to be your friend'. Some relationships we get our selves into are destructive and don't do either party any good. And those are the ones i shy away from. Its not good to be dragged down or abused through someone Else's power struggle.
2006-09-29 03:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way- if it isn't causing you alot of mental anguish or trouble- keep talking to him. You may be the only person that has been persistent in trying to communicate- this way the guy will at least have one person to turn to if he decides to break out of his "mood". Maybe he has some issues (who doesn't), and he's waiting to talk to someone that is a true friend. I say don't desert him. He may just be the one to bail you out of some trouble some day. You just never know.
2006-09-28 01:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? He's attention seeking and will drag you down to the point he is at. Who he talks to is up to him. Don't indulge him. Find someone interesting and pleasant as a friend - why bother with the self centered, boring buggers?
2006-09-28 01:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always ignores you? Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. But if you like him try talking more...
2006-09-28 01:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Professor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's trying to act a little too important 4 his own good,so i'll say,why don't u ignore him 4 some time,give him his space,and i believe that if u're important to him as u think u are,then he would be de one asking 4 ur attention first,and not de other way round.meanwhile hang around with other friends who enjoys ur company
2006-09-28 01:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by glory o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out why he is grumpy maybe there is a problem and you might be able to help him....?? <3
2006-09-28 01:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, maybe your influence can change his grumpy way, if you remain his friend.
2006-09-28 01:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he always ignores you? then how does that translate into you being his only fren
Or is HE your only fren?
dun bother..
you're supposed to be happy in friendships most of the time
2006-09-28 01:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u tried ur best shots 2 keep ur friend ship with him but he didn't respond i think u shoul let him go away and never talk 2 him unless he corrects his dealing with u
2006-09-28 01:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cool Muslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋