My ex bf and i were together for 2 1/2 yrs. we just had a baby last feb. We moved to another state when we had the baby. He has left me 4 times and moved back to our home state since the baby has been born. He'll leave for about 6 wks or so and come back begging me to take him back. He admits to drinking while he is home and also admitted to have slept with another girl last time while he was drunk. But claims to love me and wants to work this out with me. Yet he continues to leave, go home play around and call me to make sure i dont move on and date anyone else. He is paranoid i am with someone else during these break ups that he causes and calls insanely too much to know about my whereabouts but he is unreachable to me. y is he trying to keep me in love with him as he plays in our home state? Please help im in a break up that wont break up and its killing me. I dont know how to get over him because of all the calls and begging. I know he lies, i catch him all the time. Help
2006-09-28 00:35:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow this is the first time ive used yahoo questions and after only a few responses i find it very powerful! I must add that I havent answered a call from him since the last time he left. I will not take him back!! I changed my cell phone number but he makes me feel guilty about changing my house number because of the baby...but when he calls its not about the baby its about me, what im doing, who im with, how he loves me, wants to marry me, cries, begs, yells, screams, etc. My thing is even though i will never go back, im having the worst time getting over him because he wont stop calling. HE WONT LET ME FORGET HIM. And that is driving me crazy! My mom said I wont get over him if he continues to call me. I want to move on! So change my number with his child in my house??? Also ive already filed for child support! And all of you are so right...he did this because i let him. But no more....just some advice on how to get over him with his no word of a lie ...50 calls a day!
2006-09-28 01:06:37 · update #1
He admits to cheating on you but blames it on booze...no excuse. He leaves you and your child multiple times...
Sounds like an extremely selfish and insecure individual.
If you keep taking him back history will keep repeating itself, and what a role model for a child.
Get an attorney and go after him for child support for the next 18 years and have nothing more to do with him.
2006-09-28 00:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know whats going on whith him, He wants the privilages of a single guy but wants his women to be there when he comes back home. GIRL PLIZ move on leave him, file for child support and move on, for the sake of ur baby, move somewhere else, show him that ur better than that. Dont accept him in ur house, dont answer his calls act like he is not there, And if he tries anything fishy (anything) get a restrainign order. Start a new life, he is not worth it,
2006-09-28 01:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is returning to u and keeps u interested in him cos u re his back up plan. it is always easier when u know u can return somewhere. but if it doesn't suit u please don't waste your time. he will not change, this situation suits him, he doesn't love u or that other girl he is having at another place. this is just convenient for him. u will waste your youth and at the end u will be old and tired and nobody would want u. a woman can find a man at any age, but when she is young it is much much easier. and your baby wouldn't be a problem, there re billions of women who had even more than 1 child and got succesfully married again
2006-09-28 00:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for many years , 27 to be exact. I know has an older woman no one has control over whom they fall in love with. When your in love you over look their faults, their short comings. You give them much more lead way than you give your self. Then when they mistreat you its unbelievable. They didnt mean to do that. Their lost they cant make up their minds and here we give them understanding. But what it comes down to No man wants a woman he can have. These other woman get with him and find out hes a real looser and puts his *** on the road. So should you. Not only for what hes done to you . But also what he will do to you and that baby if he is allowed to stay. He knew where he was loved. Now let him go grow up and be a man and find his way and leave you to get on with your life.
2006-09-28 01:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, you must move on.....this guy is a jerk. Find a good attorney for your child's sake a file for child support. Your former bf just wants to control you....he wants the single life and someone at "home" that he can come back to. He will never make a good husband....I am an attorney and I see these cases too often. I am sorry for you and your child.
2006-09-28 00:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by wjack22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing him to do this! Why did you have a baby without a commitment? Take pride in yourself! If I run around and come back every time, why not! Its like a puppy that pees on the floor, you spank it and runs away with its tail between its legs and a little while later it comes back for you to pet it, but most puppies learn the consequences of their actions and so, should he!!!
2006-09-28 00:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit answering his phone calls! Girl you have to get out of this situation. He will continue this behavior as long as you let him. If he loved you and wanted to be commited he would be. That is not going to happen. Move back home with your family and move on with your life.
2006-09-28 00:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say change your phone number this guy has no respect for you he just wants somone at hime to be faithful so when the other ones leave and get tired he has somewhere to go show him that you will not be a woman who will put up with this
2006-09-28 00:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Redhead with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away from this guy as possible without anyway of him knowing where you are.
Work on your own skills in identifying why you would spend 1 hour with a guy like this... let alone 2.5 years and have his child.
(and don't say because you loved him... you're own self worth should have made you run 2.5 years ago).
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