Can someone answer my question?

Question

i don't know how to start. But today i felt like sharing my sad story with u.
iam married and my married life didn't last longer. Just 3 years of married life with a lovely husband . i was blessed with a kid. Life was vv happy. 1 year back i lost my husband due to sudden cardiac arrest. I lost intrest on my life totally. But just living for my kid. How to continue this life without intrest? But no other go
My parents are totally depressed .
I am unable to bear my situation. i don't understand why God is so cruel towards me. iam not happy with whatever i do.
How can i live?

Answer 1

cmon plzz do not say that!! ! lisen buddy i will try to give u some solid advices....life is not a bed of roses nor ever u should expect it to be....i knoe this world is quite mean and rude...but i have confidence that u r not.... u need to learn how to face the worldly challenges...u know what these ups and downs in life are the ones which makes the life interesting to live...today it might me not yr day...but tomorrow u will b to much happy that u will forget 2days sadness....go to yr freinds....try to keep urself bz in work so that u will not feel down...or at the most lisen to the music....music does helps to bring the flower back to its original state....trust urself....u should have confidence in urself....that u r the best...i m sure that u r indeed....but y 2day u dont feel like living...c the brighter side of life buddyy...when u c it. it really gives hope to go ahead in life....just keep hope and trust urself... and i m sure there is a door ahead of u who is just waiting for u to exit from there....which is filled with happiness and joys!!! cheers buddy!!!

Answer 2

You went thru a really hard loss, and it was only a year ago. It takes time to heal from that, but you do need to make an effort to find the joy in your life again. Otherwise your kid is going to grow up not knowing how to be happy himself. God won't put you thru more than you can handle. You may think its too much, but you've made it this far, and it really does get easier with each day that passes. No, you're probably never going to completely get over the loss of your husband, and you really shouldn't since he was very important to you. But you don't have to let it consume you, every day. Start paying attention to what you do during the day, look for those moments where you are happy- whether it be when you have a quiet moment to read, or playing with your kid, whatever. Start paying attention to what brings happiness in your life, and then start doing it more! Your husband wouldn't want you to be depressed and miserable for the rest of your life, he would want you to be happy, whether he was there or not. So go do it! I know it seems hard now, but you've been strong enough to make it thru a year of feeling miserable, and i'm sure you are strong enough to make yourself happy once again. Good luck :)

Answer 3

U need 2 concentrate on the achievements in UR life.
The positive not the negative.

Pray & end UR prayer, Thru Jesus' name.
God isn't being cruel 2 U.
God's not in control, blame the Devil he's in control of this world right now.
The Devil will not leave us B, he's going down & he wants 2 take as many of us as he can, with him.
Look in 2 Herbal Suppliments 2 help U thru a difficult time.
St Johns Wort's good, it saved my life I'd highly recommend it.
It takes a good few weeks 2 work & is it's only down-side.
Praps it could benefit UR parents 2.

Not all people R nasty, get out there & get URself some good friends 2 keep U motivated.
U've been thru so much please don't think 4 a single minute more that U did something wrong 2 deserve the pain U've suffered.
Good luck, hope I've helped even if I get a few thumbs down.
I mean everything I've said.
Trust me, we're all suffering.

Answer 4

First of all, thank you for sharing your story...I am very sorry for your loss, but very happy to hear that you had a great 3 years!
Your last statement/question was very important...i think you WANT to live, and have joy in your life again.
Would your husband want you to be devastated? Remember, he is still alive, not only in your heart, but within your child! You cant bring back your husband, but his memories can only be kept alive with you and your child...will you allow that to die as well? Or will you live and share the wonderful experiences and love that you shared...you may not realize it, but you have the incredible gift right now to share the gift of hope with anyone and everyone you meet!
God is always with you, especially through this time...it is not his cruelty, but yet his plan for all of us.
Look at how blessed you have been so far, parents that feel your pain and suffering, a child that solely depends on you to be told about how wonderful their father was...He was a big part of your life, and will always remain that way. Why not live as though he never left you, and do all the things that either one of you would have wanted to do, together or seperately at one time or other in your lives...Just live your life to the fullest! How would you have wanted your husband to react if you were the one to go? Of course you would want him to miss you, but not to stop living and that too happily!
Don't make his memory a sad one...make it one that will make you happy and with it you are unable to stop smiling.

Answer 5

Reading your story makes me very sad. I have not had to go through anything like what you are, so any advice I have is just that. Do you have a counselor, doctor, minister, or other mentor you could talk to? Perhaps anti-depressants? And find something you enjoy! Maybe it's something totally new and out of your routine, something that wouldn't have any old memories attached to it. And if God brought you to it, He will bring you through it. Just have faith. (I'm only responding to your comment, not trying to make this a religious thing) There are also some good books at the library about dealing with loss or depression. I recently read one called "Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy" by Barbara Johnson ~ perhaps it would be of some help.
Best wishes, and take care of you. For your sake and your child's.

Answer 6

I know you think God is cruel,but hes not! Let me tell you my story and see what you think- I was married to a great guy for almost 18yrs(two great kids) until cancer took him away! Two years later I met a great guy fell madly in love and was happy as could be for four years,until one day I came home and found him in the floor dead!(heart attack at age 38!) That was 2 years ago and not long a go God blessed me with another great guy! I'm I scared, well yes, but God has a plan and if you'll look to him for answers instead of blame he'll show you the way I promise! You are in my prayers!

Answer 7

The demise of your husband was indeed an unfortunate event in your life. It was not within your control; do not take it too hard upon yourself and there are many people out there much worse than you are now.

It isn’t easy but you have to be strong for yourself, your lovely kid and others around you. They need and love you!

Please go see a doctor. I think you will do with some medicine that can alleviate your depression. Working can also ease your current state of mind. And who knows, you may meet someone to share your life again.

Smile!!

Answer 8

Sorry for your loss. A friend who went through a string of life problems told me that he thought God was not through testing him yet. What you are feeling is not uncommon while grieving. You are not done grieving. Try to find a grief counselor or a group for surviving spouses. Being able to share your emptiness with people who have some empathy can really help. Please try not to focus on the despair. Its a hard time. Why are your parents depressed, your situation? Regardless stay away if they are going to bring you down worse. Good Luck. Focus on the person who needs you. Remember that you kid will be even worse off dealing with the loss of both of you. Get that counseling.

Answer 9

1st off you are alive-----you have gripped onto the death of your spouse as if it was a tangible something to hold onto. It's called the "PITY PARTY" and you've slumped into the deep hole of that PARTY and need to get a grip and pull yourself up by the boot straps ....and look at life in a different way.

Support groups, Grief support groups can help but the main key is YOU ......YOU need to seek out the things in yourself and learn to be happy with YOU!!!

God wasn't being cruel. It was your hubbys time to go. We are not immortal....There is a time to be born and a time to die. It was your husbands destiny to be chosen and Cardiac Arrest was his destiny to leave this earth! Don't blame GOD.....

You sound like you have to much time on your hands that needs to be involved in doing something!!!! Volunteer. Get active in sports, or your childs activities at school. Church, take a class at your local college.. Keep busy....

Maybe even get some professional counseling too!!!! I don't think it's your parents that are depressed....look inside YOUR OWN SELF!!!!

Answer 10

My Dad always says...Who ever said life was fair? We just have to make the best of what we are dealt. God is not cruel he does love you and that is why he sent you such a loving husband. Loss of any kind is the hardest to overcome. Its only been a year, give it more time. Keep reaching out and one day although i doubt you'll ever forget ,it will get easier. Seek professional help. Gather around you friends and family. And pour yourself into that child. I pray you find comfort and joy again soon.