Hi i've been married for 3 years and i have known my husband for 5 years, befor we got together he had a bad relationship and she belitted him, when off and got pregnant by someone else and tryed to tell him it was his, then had a abortion, when we got to gether i had to break him out of himself, we have have a ggod time together, but the past say 3 months, hes be really werid, say he dont want sex anymore i have tried to talk to him, but with no luck. i love him to bits and i dont really care about the sex side of things, but i dont want to loose my husband any ideas i am 33 and he is 27 thanks
2006-09-28 00:26:20 · 26 answers · asked by ssldavey2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't want to talk, there is nothing you can do.
Just let him know that if he wants to talk, you are always there. And make sure you are! If he tries talking to you, resist the urge to jump in and take over the conversation!
In my experience, men aren't very communicative, and will shut thier emotions inside if they feel they've been cornered. Let him come to you when he's ready.
2006-09-28 00:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
That sound so odd. To have gone through such a horrible time with his previous relationship, you would have thought he was enjoying this new wonderful relationship with you.
Sounds really strange. Could there be something on his mind? Maybe he has developed something medical with "down there" and is too scared to see a doctor. Are you trying for a baby? Or have you hinted you would like children? Without knowing your personal circumstances, it could really be anything. Maybe the thought of getting you pregnant, could be scaring him and bringing back memories of what happened to him in the past.
I know its not any help, but best of luck all the same.
x
2006-09-28 00:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by stephaniehudson50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he may be seeing someone else? Don't always suggest counseling right off the bat either. sometimes you have to just let it ride out. Maybe he's stressed right now. It might not be a bad idea for the two of you to just take off for a weekend, get away even if it's just another town nearby, and have some alone time in a different setting.
2006-09-28 00:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just hope the world changes for you both especially you lovey because your both not really living a full life if even at all and there is a very urgent need for him to seek counselling and by that I am referring to psychiatry Get him to your own GP first and he will deal with the appointment and if he thinks it should be urgent he will express that . Good Luck to you both and these things will correct themselves with the help of the psychiatrist and as black as things look for you now it will be brighter real soon
2006-09-28 01:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he's been really hurt by this evil woman in the past and he's been emotionally damaged...you sound such a sweetheart to be helping him through this, making him feel happy. He will appreciate you in the long run, once he's come out of the other side...I'd just try to encourage him to talk and get him to open up to you, it sounds as though it's going to take time and if you push too hard he will just back away further and go into his shell....
2006-09-28 00:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like counseling would be a good idea. You can also tell him what you wrote here. And tell him that the way he acts is highly suspicious. You can't pull off this marriage by yourself and you have to communicate. If you can't do that, it's no use. Good luck!
2006-09-28 00:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by lily_tuesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he was lucky to have you to help him "break out " now i think he may need some professional help to correct anything you may not have covered. Don't let that take anything away from the praise you deserve for doing this. You will see the difference and I'm hoping you will get back to happiness.....good luck...
2006-09-28 00:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear, if he doesn't want talk to you, then you need to tell him directly how you feel, instead of talking around. Just ask- don't guess, it's his turn to explain, because you are not furniture in a house, you are person, who married him and need toknow what's going on. You don't have to suffer because his got something on his mind, but can't tell you.
There must be explanation- dont worry girl!!!
2006-09-28 00:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always try and hide their pain or feelings, almost everything. You do need to try and talk to him again, you can't just go counselling if you haven't even discussed it with him first. So talk to him again, tell him you miss him, love him etc. Ask him what's wrong, it does seem like he's not telling you something and you do need to try and find out what it is.
2006-09-28 00:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that happened a long time ago, why are you connecting what's happening now with what happened in his past??
Maybe he's stressed out at work, just give him a bit of time, and if he doesn't come round then maybe suggest seeing someone about how he's feeling??
2006-09-28 06:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋