My girl and I split up in March after 2 years together. She never gave me a reason for splitting up.
Last month out of the blue she phoned me up and told me she loved me. The following day she gave me her new e-mail address and I assumed I had the green light to woo her again.
We have been flirting by e-mail for a month until last week when I asked her if we had a future. She told me that I was her favourite person in the whole World and loved me dearly but anything more i.e. a relationship was not what she wants at the moment, but she refuses to rule out a relationship in the future. I love this girl more than any other I have ever met. What should I do?
2006-09-28 00:02:10 · 23 answers · asked by ba1411 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep YOUR options open.
Spend time with her if you like, but also keep looking for someone else that may interest you. When she finds out about that, it may motivate her to show you her real intentions.
And, you may meet someone who REALLY likes you and who you like better too.
2006-09-28 00:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is difficult..i think she i skeeping her options open with you incase of whoever else she is eeing does not work out (i could be wrong). i think the best would be for you to try and get over her...stop waiting on a "maybe on day " from her because they day may never come.
Whiel you are waiting for her to decide weatehr or not she wanst to be with you, you are probably shutting out woman who do want to be with you and missing the opportunity to find "the one" becasue of it. I say stop communicating with her all together..it will be hard but it is the only way you are going to get over her so you can start living your life again. Let her know this and maybe this will bring her to her senses about leaving you, maybe it won't but either way, waiting for something that may or may not happen for you, depended upon if she gets alone with the otehr guy more or less than you, is a shame. Good luck.
2006-09-28 07:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by misfit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is keeping her options open she wants to know that she is still loved but also doesn't want to commit to a long term relationship in case it doesn't work. Maybe try to find out why you split in the first place it may be the reason she's holding back
2006-09-28 09:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Caz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting so damned pu$$y whipped!!! And stop wasting your time. This woman lays some good lovin' on you and you go all mushy inside, thinking it's 'love'. Yeah, it's love alright, you're in love with the pu$$y, and you think with your little head instead of the big one. STOP IT!
Be a man for God's sake. You're being played. You know it, but you just don't want to face it. 'Sack up' goddamn it!
You need to hit the internet and find out if Tom Leykis is on your local radio station and listen. Listen and pay heed. You need to be de-vaginized.
2006-09-28 08:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you heard nothing from her between March and September and suddenly she contacted you out of the blue. I'm very sorry but I think she had someone else during that time and it ended recently. You are just filling in time for her until someone else comes along, I'm afraid.
By all means keep talking to her if you like, but try to keep your mind open to other possibilities. I am afraid she isn't being very fair to you and she sounds selfish, shallow and insensitive.
2006-09-28 08:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a 100 percent right when you think that. She is keeping her options open and so should you. Keep up with the emails but there are so many people in the world that the girl you were meant to be with could be right around the corner. Just keep your options open. She is.
2006-09-28 07:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Michael S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing with you. She likes to be pursued, we all do. Not that she doesn't have feelings for you, but it's pretty obvious that you both want different things. You know what you want, she doesn't know what she wants or she's not willing to tell you.
Overall though, she's messing with your head. Give her some space, move on...and she'll probably work harder to get your attention. Give her too much and she'll pull away. No point in wasting time on this, move on....find someone what wants what you want and doesn't play head games.
2006-09-28 08:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it's time to move on. Don't let her string you along. You'll end up hurt and resentful to other girls in the future. Find one that will treat you right and leave that other motherf#$#er alone. If you can get some no-strings attached pu$$y and he@d out of it, then hey, go for it.
2006-09-28 09:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it right in the question - she is keeping her options open and also by keeping in contact with you she is making sure that your attention is on her and not any other girl.
I think you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for more hurt. You WILL meet someone else that means more to you than her in the longrun so don't worry about that
2006-09-28 07:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by marliboco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would step back and not be so eager to respond to her calls and mails, answer one ignore 2 is a good ratio. If she is seriously thinking of getting back she will chase you if shes just providing herself with a safety net in case nothing else comes into her life she will back off and you will save yourself a second bout of heartache
good luck
2006-09-28 07:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Fairydust 64. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, this girl is deffo not worth your time, she is use using you until some finds someone else or maybe she just doesnt want you to find somebody else!! Same thing happened to me so I didnt get anyone because I thought something was going to happen with this guy and he ended up getting with his ex girlfriend!!! So dont be waiting around for her!!!
2006-09-28 07:06:32 · answer #11 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋