....that you were attracted to, but he looks at you as "just a freind", and if he decided to go out with another girl, would you continue to be his freind or would you step away completely for the sake of your own heart.
Serious answers please as I'm trying to figure out what to do. :(
2006-09-27 23:59:10 · 11 answers · asked by Q.S. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This could apply to men also. Thanks.
2006-09-28 00:00:29 · update #1
I understand what you guys are saying, but even if he decides to date again, that would be hard for me wishing I was the one there with him and I'm afraid I'll be hurt because my feelings for him won't change. *sigh*
2006-09-28 00:08:30 · update #2
I AM IN THE EXACTLY THE SAME BUT OPPISITE SITUATION AND YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO STEP ASIDE FOR YOURSELF AND HIM.IF YOU LOVE HIM THEN YOU TRULY ONLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM IF HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU.YOU WILL FIND OUT IF HE LOVES YOU WHEN YOU START TO LET HIM GO,LET HIM GO ,AND WISH HIM YOUR BEST,DON'T LET HIM SEE YOU CRY.
2006-09-28 00:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a good guy friend who got married earlier in the year to someone he barely knew (Just met her online) and I was kinda hurt at first because he just did it because he is afraid of being alone (plus other issues) I don't agree with some of his decisions but we are still good friends. I figure that when this wife leaves him too, I will be here to help him, again. (this is #3)
Am I attracted to him? I think he's a hottie, but we have such a great connection, emotionally, and we are good friends, and he knows that I am always here for him. I stepped back a little bit when he first got married but not so much anymore. Like I said, I don't agree with what he did but I am here to pick him up whenever he may fall. He's my bud, and I can't let him fall without me trying to help him out.
2006-09-28 00:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was a teenager. My friend and I are still very close 20 years later and both are married to other people. (he was even in my wedding!) If this guy is a really good friend and someone you'd like to keep as a friend, hang in there. Be a friend, date other people but always come back to being friends. Over time something more might develop, who knows? Hang in there, date a few guys and see if this develops over time.
2006-09-28 00:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Deb C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have friend , a guy that at one time i thought i loved and i very much wanted more ,he is just a wonderful guy but he's always had other women.he and were in business together and we did well.to this day is the only man i trust completely.anyway he told me once that if we got involved on an intimate level that would probably end our friendship and neither of us wanted that so we remained friends. i wasn't to pleased with that but we did leave that as it was. i moved to Florida and we hadn't seen each other for a few years and when we did we were very happy and he invited me to his house that evening, i just felt a different vibe from him and was going to his house but for some reason i didn't go ,probably b/c i had a b/f in Florida also b/ i felt he was going to change our relationship. i didn't go and we are still very good friends.
2006-09-28 00:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont step away. This happened to me years ago when I first came to the US. And although the other girl got the guy he was always around for me with all my troubles, and I for his (including his divorce from the other girl!) I have felt blessed to have him as a friend all these years, and there are plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-09-28 00:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by trishopesisters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would try to be his friend. It might be hard at first, but true friends are there for each other forever. As his friend, you will be the one he turns to when times get hard. He will be the one you lean on when you need support. Can you really picture your life without him in it? Even as just a friend?
2006-09-28 00:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Qusan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well definatley you should remain to be his friend, love hurts.
If you feel this way about him have you told him? might be a good thing if he isn't already in to deep with the new girl.
Otherwise let the cards fall where they may..you never know things could change down the road and if so wouldn;t it be nice to know you stuck around for it?
2006-09-28 00:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step away only if you wish to end the friendship. If you want to stay friends with this person, you must get over your jealousy.
2006-09-28 00:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is short.. reliable buddies are few. Why lose one over something so petty? ask your self, why can no longer you be in simple terms buddies with somebody you're attracted to? fantastically in the adventure that your charm isn't in easy terms actual. supply your coronary heart somewhat credit. it is not as fragile as you seem to think of. yet do be mature approximately it. save on with the code of ethic and don't attempt to sabotage his cutting-edge dating. it is going to do you no reliable exterior of ruining your credibility.
2016-12-12 16:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should still be his friend. I was in the same situation once. It'll be okay. Trust me.
2006-09-28 00:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by am2ask8er 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋