my grandfather died when i was 10 im 25 now..he died on christmas eve and i wasnt told for a few months afterwards..only saw my dad growing up once twice a year then not for years...but i keep dreaming about him..he keeps telling me to find him..to say goodbye because i dont even know where he is buried and i never got to say goodbye to him..i think i have the right since he is my grandfather. what do u think? should i let it go? or say goodbye?
2006-09-27 23:02:54 · 8 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ive tried saying goodbye to him without going to his graveside but it doesnt work i still dream of him.
2006-09-27 23:11:54 · update #1
i dont know were my dad is and niether does my mam...mam doesnt know were he is either
2006-09-27 23:16:37 · update #2
dear put your mind and soul at rest and say goodbye to him after all he is your own blood
2006-09-27 23:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by marshall6922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to want to say good bye or pay respects. Try to seek out where he is buried and say your good bye's. My mom died when I was 14, then my grandfather a week later. I wasnt told of my grandfather for months later. I now understand the pressure on a kid it could have. It's a natural instinct to wasnt to protect your family (kids) from sadness.
Good Luck
2006-09-28 06:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by nysmarksilfen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we dream, our conscious state switches off and sub-conscious 'wakes up'. In this state, we can experience some strange things. Some say that our souls are able to interact with each other. The Aboriginal culture of Australia are an example of what I'm talking about. They believe in Spirits called Dreamings.
I believe that while you can 'let go' of a departed relative in your mind, your conscious isn't allowing it unless you physically let go. If you intend to locate his grave, you should do it with firm conviction and fortitude. Once you're able to physically and mentally say goodbye, you're conscious will be at peace and you will be more content with yourself. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 06:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and find out where he is laid to rest and kneel down, talk to him as though he was there beside you and say"goodbye".
It's something you need to do, to finally get closure.
Your Grandfather needs it too!!
Good Luck.
Blessed be
2006-09-28 06:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by bear4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did not you ask your father and mom and also your grandmother where is the tomb of your grandfather..If you have this information you can see his tomb at least once a year.You can say good bye to your grandfather at home or at the church when you pray to God.
2006-09-28 06:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something inside you hasn't let go. For what ever reason. If you think going to the grave will resolve it then you have to try and find it
2006-09-28 11:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter. it is something physical (which you haven't had) to show he is no longer in this world. read it out loud to him. he is with you in spirit and can hear you.
set up a tape recorder at night before you go to sleep and check it in the morning.listen carefully.
2006-09-28 07:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by craina c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you never find out where his body was burried you can still say good bye
2006-09-28 06:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋