My Problem is this:
When I was in primary school I fell in love with someone called Skye.
But then when it came too high school, he got sent to a private all boy's school far away and I got sent to the local comprehensive.
I thought I'd NEVER see him EVER again and despaired.
Around about the same time my Grandmother of whom I was VERY close to died. She practically raised me.My mother never seemed to bother with me. However I never noticed this neglect (by my mother)until my Grandma died.
I noticed that I was very unsupported by my mother and in general uncared for. Sometimes she was also emotionally abusive towards me--sometimes she could be so nasty she'd make me cry.
Because of all these things(the death of my Grandma, the loss of Skye and also the uncaring attituse at home) I began to feel very depressed.
Then I made a TERRIBLE mistake:
Somedays I felt so low I found it almost impossible to think about the future and sometimes couldn't find the will-power to get up in the mornings.I started to refuse to go to school asn I felt so low and i couldn't bring myself to/didn't know how to move on from Skye...and my Grandma....didn't want a life..if it was going to be without them...didn't see the point. I missed Skye so so much and could not come to terms with the fact that one of the people of whom I loved more than anyone in the world...had vanished from my life FOREVER! It was like a nightmare! I couldn't believe that I'd probably never see him ever again/be with him.
I'd been bullied VERY VERY badly at the primary school i went to (before I moved to the one Skye was at)which also made me quite nervous of people and scared of school too.However I recieved no help, no counselling or anything(do you think this was neglect?)
I refused to go to High school on-and-off for the first three years by which time I was REALLY REALLY very behind in my work.I then refused to go to school altoghether as I couldn't cope any more with my life. I was SEVERELY depressed and wasn't thinking logically. I ended up having 5 measly hours of home tuition per week, for the next two years which should have been spent in school. Unsurprisingly I then failed all my GCSEs (apart from one, where I got a 'C' in English)I felt so depressed. I then have stupidly stayed at home doing nothing for the past two years as I have felt too embarrassed to face the world and I have also been struggling with SEVERE depression.........I am now 18. :(
However this is now my problem(of which i need your advice on) :
I am 18 years old and I have realised that I realy HAVE to do someting about my life. i.e. go to college
my problem is I still REALLY really love Skye
the thing is I did have brief contact with him a few years ago and recieved comformation that BACK THEN he liked me.But he didn't know about me missing school back then. you see I sent him a valentine's card saying 'I think you're the most lovely person in the universe and always will no matter what!
I now want??/need to go to college. However I have just found out thet the college I wanted to attend is right next door to the top educational sixth form which Skye goes to. If I go there then I will definantely bump into him…but the thing is he will NEVER EVER be interested in me now (even if he used to be when I was ok).how on earth canI explain to him WHY I refused to go to school? He’s going to think I am a bad person .
But the thing is he's studyiwng 'A' levels at a top sixth form college. And I .....will probably have to go on an Entry level course and learn really basic stuff like how to cook, use public transport etc(basically for absolute dim-wits)
He'll NEVER EVER be interested in me now. He's in a different league to me. He's so clever.but this is killing me. I wish I could be with him more than anything in the world but as soon as he finds out that's it....my dream...dead......finished
Also even if I go to a different college, it's inevitable that i'll bump into him whilst out and about anyway.(I just can’t believe that I DIDN’T THINK ABOUT THIS years ago….i just wasn’t thinking properly) But If I ignore him then he'll think I'm not interested i him, when I am. But if I talk to him he'll not like me anyway when he finds out what I've done. He'll think I;m a terrible person.
The thing is (and I really need your help on this) HOW ON EARTH DO I EXPLAIN TO HIM ABOUT HOW I REFUSED TO GO TO SCHOOL--AND WORST OF ALL WHY? HE'LL NOT THINK VERY WELL OF ME ONCE I'VE TOLD HIM. I'M not going to lie. I need him to know the truth.my other problem is that when I refused to go to school--s did my sister(only she didn't have a valid reason) she simply wouldn't go just because I was off school and didn't see why she should go either.HOW ON EARTG CAN I EXPLAIN TO HIM HOW MY SISTER IS NOW IN THE SAME SITUATION I'M IN?HE'LL THINK MY FAMILY ARE AWFUL. I AM 18 YEARS old now btw...and am getting severely worried about my future.
What should I do about Skye now? Which college should I go to (the one next door to Sye........or a diffferent one? How can i hold on to him, be around him, stand a chance with him etc? PLEASE HELP.....i love him and couldn't bear to lose him. I just don't know what I'm going to do!!!! What should I do about Skye?
If I do nothing …and just let Skye go……then do you think that we’ll ever meet again again some day in the distant future…..and get together? I mean what are the chances of that happening? Probably not very high. Do people come back from University?
Can you offer me any advice on all of this?
2006-09-27 22:59:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just put all you have into your studies. You have to take pride in yourself and the work you put into your work. If you put all you have into your studies and you happen to run into Skye, tell him the truth. If it is meant to be, it will be. Pray that you have the strength and the courage to concur each day. I know you can do it. It doesn't matter if he is smarter or you are smarter. What matters is what is in your heart and what you
put into your life. The effort you put into it will show and will attract others. Best wishes to you.
2006-09-27 23:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK your first problem is you are more concerned about Skye than yourself. What about you? You have all these emotional things going on and you need a counselor girl! I don't want to sound mean or heartless but your first concern should be you, not some guy! Lets say you and Skye got together and in a perfect world everything was great. You will still have those other problems/feelings. You need to come to terms with your issues before you get yourself involved with anyone. Skye will be there and you be there for him but I strongly suggest you seek professional help...not to sound mean.
2006-09-27 23:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you feel for skye is not real..you just think you are in love with him because he was nice to you and you were just children...Good on you for wanting to go to college..once you are out mixing with other people you will find nice friends and a boyfriend and you will realise for yourself that you just had a crush for Skye..most people have them. There is nothing wrong with catching up on old times with Skye but he might not understand everything you have went through and run a mile.
2006-09-27 23:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are dealing with alot of conflicts...don't worry about skye rejecting you...focus on what you need to do to get yourself back on track of where you want to be. sometimes people see someone who has had struggles in their lives and who have overcome them and respect them all that much more....skye is not better than you...he has not had to deal with as much as you have in your 18 years of life so far...depression is just one thing you are dealing with and that can be crippling if you allow it to be...sometimes when a person has to deal with alot of hard life stuff and then goes for counseling and really works on growing and repairing damage that has been done to them by situations and other people, they actually end up more mature and resilliant than others who have not had the struggles.....my advice is to go to counseling or read about some of the psychological stuff you are dealing with...counseling is probably better because you can be guided that way and go to the school you want to go to...give yourself time to heal and give yourself permission to be loved for who you are and who you aspire to become
2006-09-27 23:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by bertha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no problem is big once u have realized the cause and effects....good that u are attending college once again....now coming to skye pls tell him your ordeal after grandma passed away....if he is sincere and willing he will accept and console...otherwise darling hitting your head against the wall wont help....study hard and try and recoup lost time....u can do it and as time passes by u will gain more confidence and self respect.....if not this skye may be another skye....
2006-09-27 23:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK I AM REALLY SAD FOR YOU BUT YOU YOURSELF HAVE TO FIGHT FOR YOU. YOU WILL HAVE TO START YOUR STUDIES RIGHT NOW BECAUSE IF YOU JUST THINK THE MOMENTS WILL RUN AWAY FROM YOU . AND ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO START ANYTHING. AND REGARDING SKYE GO AND TALK TO HIM. EXPRESS YOUR GRIEFS. HE MAY LEAVE YOU BUT IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL NOT. AND IF HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU TEN WHY WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE AROUND HIM. STUDY HARD AND LIVE YOUR LIFE GRACEFULLY.
2006-09-27 23:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pursue your study in college that you prefer to. you have told skye the truth about your life maybe he will understand and if not just let him go and do make yourself busy like hang in out with friend.and please please don't do anything stupid. think about your life. guys is not important if him doesn't understand you. go and get someone else who will understan your situation .
2006-09-27 23:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like sands through the hourglass so are the days of our lives!
2006-09-27 23:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by tori 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question is way too long
2006-09-27 23:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Neopoly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋