Its my daughters sixth birthday soon, and of course we are having a party for her. Without seeming ungratful I was considering asking the parents of those kids who have been invited for a small cash present (£2ish) Instead of the usual generic girls presents that we all buy for other peoples kids, I personally would love this if it was asked of me, no wondering what to get, no getting the same gift as everyone else and the child could get whatever they wanted with the cash. the only thing that bothers me is would it take the shine off the party for my daughter and would other parents object?
2006-09-27 22:41:22 · 41 answers · asked by Thornsey 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I am really sorry if I appear rude but it would kill it, nevermind take the shine off it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It would be like Santa bringing you nothing but a gift voucher. Money means nothing to a small child. They don't care about it. They want to open mysterious packages.
I agree with you whole heartedly that it makes little sense in getting 15 identical barbies and that logically, it would be more sensible to get money, put it together and then buy something else
BUT
The child won't see it the way you do....she's only six. She won't see how it makes sense and that she will get something better/ something she actually chooses herself and wants
She may get 15 barbies but that won't be a problem to her. She's only little. Again, I hate to be rude. I don't know your child but I do suspect that she would be tremendously disappointed as she won't think beyond the fact that nobody has brought her something exciting in mysteriously wrapped box.
I understand that you will buy gifts for her yourself, but a big part of a child's birthday party is the present opening. It's the bit, along with the birthday cake, that makes the child feel special. It is what distinguishes the day as theirs. Birthday cards don't cut it.... they want things to unwrap... they get excited by the fact that they can't wait to know what's inside.
It doesn't really matter what toys are in the wrapping paper, kids just like to unwrap things and feel special because they have presents while the other kids don't
As for parents...
I don't think they would object but they would probably find it a bit presumptuous. You know that it's the done thing to bring a gift but you don't expect to be asked out loud.
I AM SORRY IF I HAVE APPEARED RUDE. I AM SORRY IF I HAVE SPOKEN OUT OF TURN.
2006-09-28 00:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by kate_wizzbomb 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I went to a party once for a child and in the invitation the parents put that the child was saving up money for a higher priced item. Almost all the kids brought money BUT the kid wasn't too excited, yeah money is great but I think kids like the idea of opening those packages.
You can always try putting a list of interests your daughter has in the invitiation, like if she likes art stuff or stuffed animals, whatever. I wouldn't specifically ask for anything though. With my kids I have always had several parents ask when they RSVP what they can get them, then you could say "no barbies please, my living room already looks like an all girl pre-school", lol.
HTH
2006-09-28 00:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by channielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It would not be nice to your daughter, either. the most fun part of girls' birthday parties is taking a present and openingi presents. So what if she gets a million barbies. The more the merrier. I would personally object if my daughter were invited to such a party where the mom requested money.
2006-09-28 05:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about the joy and excitement the child (and children at the party) feels with all those presents sitting at a table just waiting to be opened. that has always been the highlight of any birthday party my son had. Unfortunately he didn't get to many and now that he's 17 he still tells me he loves opening the gifts, not the money
your child may be different; think how the child will feel
2006-09-27 22:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by nascarmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, not a polite move, but, I have an idea. Have a themed party, and suggest that people bring gifts for that theme. Do something like an art party, or and animal party. I find that people tend to bring whatever the party theme is, and also it's so hard to decide what to get for kids that you always run to the thing that's comes to mind first. If I had suggestions for a kids party, I would love it!
2006-09-28 05:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest part of a party is opening the presents! Yes it is rude. If your daughter gets 3 barbies and two dolls, she can graciously say thank you. I don't think she will mind having more than one of the same thing. If she gets more than one identical gift you can save one for when the other gets lost, stolen, given to a friend, or broken.
2006-09-28 04:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great idea. Then all the kids give the same and the mums are much happier, You should try and make it law. Some parents kids are not invited to party's over here as the parents of the party know they wont get a gift, not fair on the little ones that there mums and dads don't have it.
2006-09-27 22:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This would be extremely rude and tacky. If you do not want your child to get gifts (maybe talk it over with her first), suggest children donate the money to a charity of their choice. Then you can just buy with your own money what you think your child would like. For just a minute, though, go back to when you were six --- wouldn't you think how you are feeling is a little bit heartless, and would be hurtful to your child? Just be gracious, and accept what people would give your child. Imagine them reading your question in horror!
If your child gets duplicate gifts, you could donate them to a child's charity.
2006-09-28 00:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a dicey one.
It makes sense, and should be OK to ask to not give multiple commonplace gifts, but asking for money is always a touchy subject and is often misunderstood.
You may be better off just bearing with it, and accept what you get. Maybe you can unload the surplus Barbies, or recycle them as future gifts.
2006-09-27 22:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will lose all the joy and fun of opening gifts On the invitation put a note that she is registered at Toys R Us and choose to put on the list at various price ranges so the other Parents won't go to the poor house.
2006-09-27 22:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by timex846 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋