from 1st year to 3rd year high school, i'm the first honor...and everyone is expecting that i'll graduate in 4th year as the valedictorian...but now, i think, i'm going down...my exams are not that high anymore...and i don't know how will i tell this to my parents,,,they are really expecting that i'm doing good...i'm afraid to tell them but i have to!!! help me please....
2006-09-27 22:38:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
You seemed have the same problems as I have had before. I was a very good student who has had a good reputation and also high expectation from teachers and also fro family. Since I have had some bad problem with life, everything in the class run down and I couldnt make it better anymore. Think over it again now, when you go to work, honor is not helping anything at all but it's going to be a big pressure for you if you cannot work well or so then people around you would see you different. Some people here has first honor in my work place too, I admitted that I envied them but some cannot do good at work at all but some people can work better than the hornor group. IF your parents love you then they would not want hurt you just their expectation. Tell them the truth, and asked them if they love you because of your ability not because you are you. Be strong. Cheer up. I know and understand your feeling. But being suffering like this can hurt yourself and also your future too. Believe me, I had that time before...Take care, dear.
2006-09-27 23:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by HonestyThai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very hard thing to do what is asked of you. To show that you may need a little help with going beyond most peoples abilities in not only being but staying as the top student of any class. Sooner or later you are going to have to let your parents and friends know that you need some help.The best thing you can do is sit the family down and tell them exactly where you stand in this situation. They might even be able to offer some help or advice to get you through such tough periods in life..... because this won't be the only time it happens. Doing this will show that you have not only grasped what is given to you in school, but also show the maturity level that comes with getting older. So try it out, and don't be afraid to ask for a little help.
2006-09-27 22:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by merlinmx5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody to help you, quick. If you get down about the situation, it will only get worse. Try to talk to a counselor first, see what he/she has to say. When you talk to the parents, and make that soon, tell them you were being a responsible adult, and asking for help from a professional. Tell them what the counselor had to say, and ask the parents for their help.If you need to, tell them you are already critisizing yourself plenty, you now need some help.
And make sure you have your head together. Do you want to stay at the top, or is something else getting a higher priority lately? Do you think it will be too difficult, or that you might miss out on some fun due to your Grade Quest? Have you over extended yourself, too many courses, too many extracuriculars? Do you need a tutor, or better study techniques? Think it out, so you will know what to say to the parents, and how to ask for their help.
And if you can not figure out what is wrong, tell them that.
I wish you well, I hope your parents will give you the help you need.
2006-09-27 23:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do the best that you know you can. I am positive that your parents will still love even if you don't get valedictorian. I know what you are feeling because even in my AP classes, I am still considered the "smart" one. Don't worry about what people think. Just tell them that you actually have a life! If you really want to graduate as valedictorian, get extra help on the subjects that you are struggling in. Have faith in yourself to accomplish your goals. And about telling your parents, for me, I would casually slip it into a conversation that we are having.
2006-09-27 22:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by lightsaber_tech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more, it is difficult to offer detailed advice.
However, as a general rule, it is always best to pass on the bad news as soon as you can.
If you do that, perhaps your parents will help and support you to achieve the level of which you are capable.
Can you think of any reasons why your grades may be going down?
The important thing is that you always do the very best you can, and if that is not as high as you previously expected, you can still be proud that you maximised your achievement.
Best wishes!
2006-09-27 22:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by aarcue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Everyone has high expectations of you, and now you feel the weight of possibly letting them down, so to speak. As long as you know in your heart that you are trying your best, then you are not letting yourself down and that's more important. I think maybe they were also trying to inspire with positive statements re: your academics. Maybe you should talk to them-they will understand
2006-09-27 22:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the school year has just started...so you have time to get your grades up...maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities... is it you or your parents who what the valedictorian gig? If it is you...maybe you'll need to cut back on extra curricular activities...if it's them...just sit down and tell them what is up...I'm sure they'll be pissed, but you'll be out of the house and on your own soon enough!
2006-09-27 22:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, Be honest with them right up front. Trust me they WILL understand. Tell them exactly what you said here. Do your best, be proud with yourself and dont live your life based upon others expectations. Set your own goals your own standards and strive to be the best person YOU can.
2006-09-27 22:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by latitude58_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents frankly that you tried hard to attain the highest honors but you failed inspite of your enthusiasm. And promise to do more good grades next time.
2006-09-27 22:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you change your attitude and turn off your fears and continuously give orders to your mind" i have no fear of any thing" and "am going to do well in everything" then, while studying , just study, dont think of any other thing. work hard and reach your goal.
all the best
2006-09-27 22:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋