I have serious concerns regarding a 3 year old. I feel he is subject to neglect and abuse. The childs mother has a social worker (already says something about the mother!), and the child is on the 'At Risk' register!
Why when I call Social Services do they claim that they have no real concerns about the child! How do I get them to see what is going on?
2006-09-27 22:21:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
contact these people
http://www.nspcc.org.uk/html/home/home.htm
2006-09-27 22:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by david429835 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep a detailed log of all incidents you encounter. You cannot use hearsay events. If you can, take pictures of any brusies, marks,etc that you may feel are suspicious.
After a couple of days or a week, you can then call the police. Give them a report and they will have to get child services involved. You should also send the report to child services as well.
It's a fine line with child services because they have so many cases that they are required to check on. It's not a system that is great for the children that are actually being abused.
2006-09-28 05:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child is already on the 'At Risk' register then surely the SS already have concerns? Worrying that they are not listening to you. If you have some actual serious proof of neglect and/or abuse then you should tell them this. If you really do feel there is a neglect / abuse issue and the SS dont seem inclined to do anything, then how about speaking to the police? Seems extreme but theyd at leats be able to point you in the right direct.
Please tho, be sure there is an issue because my brother and wife were FALSELY accused of neglect and abuse of their 2 small sons with ABSOLUTELY NO EVIDENCE, it was a backlash and false accusation from a disgruntled neighbour, and they lost 2 years of their lives fighting to clear their names. Good luck
2006-09-28 05:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DSS dosn't want to take children away unless it's absolutely necessary. Sometimes it works out for the best, sometimes not. It's hard, I know. Keep trying. Keep a journal. I have been through this. I have had 3 false alligations from my mother in law, and 2 nosy bittes. My child is well cared for, and has never been in any danger. Keep a journal of events, or try to get in on video tape, hard eveidence like that can be really compelling. .
2006-09-28 05:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the local health visitors , explain your concerns and ask if they can do a home visit. If the child is on the register they will already know the family but may be having the wool pulled over their eyes. Whatever you do don't be fobbed off, keep complaining and reporting them.
2006-09-28 05:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Emz77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep bugging them. Is there any way you can get proof? They can't deny it then. Around here, SS jump to it when anyone calls. My neighbor was pissed at my husband and I for living across the street. She wanted her son to live there, but the landlord rented to us. She called SS and said we wouldn't let our son go to school, and SS came right over. This woman said she always heard our son begging to go to school and we wouldn't let him go. How stupid is that? The only time I kept him home was when he was sick, which was alot, kids pick up everything. He also had problems with his ears, and got tubes over the summer. She was just mad because her son didn't get the house. I had kept records of my sons' Dr. visits, so they couldn't say anything to me.
Nothing should come before the safety of a child. If you feel strongly that something is going on, PLEASE keep doing what you are. Maybe if everyone cared enough, we wouldn't have kids dying/being hurt at the hands of the people who are supposed to protect them. God bless.
2006-09-28 07:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you have solid proof that this child is in danger then theres nothing you can do...but your concerns are with good intentions....if you know the mother well enough, then you could suggest taking the child off her hands for a few hours so she can take break, then you can see if he or she has been harmed in any way...if you feel that this child is in any danger then keep pestering the SS...i have heard alot of horror stories of neglect and the SS have failed to act fast, and before they can do anything about it...it's too late....eg: Victoria Clumbie....bless her soul
2006-09-28 11:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social services probably get a tonne of phone calls from people like yourself and sometimes its minor. But I'd keep trying and like other answers have suggested, keep a daily of events and differences you see in this childs that you believe is being abused. Your doing a great thing. Keep it up.
2006-09-28 05:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way to go about this is are you totally sure about this if you are well done and you must be thanked for it...but what is the best way to draw attention to this is make a complaint to the police and they will come to see you tell them your concerns and they will force the social services to go and intervene. if all else fails get in touch with their n.s.p.c.c. and tell them you will find there web site on your search engine that is the main place in England if you live abroad i don't know the organisation for children. take care and be careful and well dine in being so caring to the kids...
2006-09-28 05:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by JAY JAY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your sure its serious neglect and abuse make a list and tell SS in detail what youve seen. i`m not being funny but theres a good chance they already know ..what you see as bad abuse might not be seen as so serious by them . saying that they allways seem to get it wrong theres been horrific storys in the papers where they made mistakes its better safe than sorry
2006-09-28 12:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by keny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the N.S.P.C.C. or Childline. They would rather have lots of "mistaken" phone calls than a single child hurt. Get some evidence if you can.
2006-09-28 05:46:05 · answer #11 · answered by mistymiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋