I walk to school with my son everyday and take along my baby daughter. We always come across a group of three women(sisters+mother) with there two boys. One is in my sons class the other a year older. They are both cheecky and abusive to there mothers on the way to school, what about when these boys are still hitting there mothers at 15 year old?. The problem is the older of the two is shouting at other people. Swearing and shouting i'm not having it. He pushed another woman with a baby infront of me and said "look at you you four eyed c***" to the little girl. His mother (not the brightest spark) just said dont be cheecky. I couldn't believe it. I study child psychology and know a bit about this family and the children are not mentaly ill. The problem is with the mothers and not the boys. This morning i was with a friend and he started shouting at her. We told the grandmother and she just laughed and shook her head.
2006-09-27 21:56:25 · 33 answers · asked by yeahbutnobut 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I dont want my son hearing this and if he was to push my baby i'd get in trouble if i did any thing. Any one have any ideas? Should i tell the school?
2006-09-27 21:57:19 · update #1
No men, as the boy was shouting at my friend he also said "my dads out of prison now and he'll get you sorted!"
2006-09-27 22:05:39 · update #2
absolutely....take as many people into confidence as is possible...if being so young they are such rogues one can well imagine how big rascals would they be down the road....may be advise mother to take counselling with the kids.
2006-09-27 22:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a different route to school , i know you shouldn`t have too its ridiculous what kids get away with now , could you not phone the school anonimously and say what is happening at the school gates etc or even if a couple of the mothers could phone surely these parents would be pulled up . My guess is they are the same in the classroom so i would imagine there are alot of unhappy parents out there , i know i would be if any of my kids had such a child intheir class and it is obvious the parent has no control over this boy , coming out with such foul language and then laughing , i don`t know who is worse !
2006-09-27 23:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could contact the local Social Work Office (Child & Family Dept.)If the behaviour of the children is often this bad then it might be the case that they already have or have had some involvement. At the very least they can give you some advice.
Other than this you may want to report this situation to the police as what the children are doing is an offence. The third option is to report the matter to the school who could take action or support you.
2006-09-27 22:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Halo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the school for sure! This can't keep going untoticed. Just make sure that they keep your name confidential so you're not putting your children and you at risk of painful revenge. Not quite sure why kids need to behave like this, and even more confused why parents don't repremand their children more. But you seem like a level-headed mature mother, be a role model and maybe till something gets sorted, walk a different route to school, or if not possible, then just leave a little earlier. Avoid those people at all costs. Plus, you don't want your children hearing that foul language!
2006-09-27 22:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately these children are the victims of poor parenting. If parents will not discipline their children their isn't a lot you can do. I suggest you try to find an alternate route to walk your son to school. That way you don't have to worry about coming in contact with the little thugs at all. I know it isn't fair that you have to change the way you do things because some parents don't want to take on the responsibility of parenting their children, but such is life.
2006-09-28 03:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by OrianasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the reality of it is you can't do anything. I do feel the same way as you. People bring up there children differently. I think you should contact the school just to make them aware of the situation should anything get out of hand. But to be honest i don't think the school will be able to do much either. You sound like a decent, good parent so carry on teaching your child that the way this family acts is not how you expect him to act, that he knows the right from wrong. do be careful though as this family do not sound very nice and they could make things difficult for you and your family.
Good luck and keep up your good parenting.
2006-09-27 22:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, since they are not your children, there is very little you can do directly. However, you can stop walking to school with the mother and children.
As calmly and politely as you can, simply tell the woman that her children are insulting, rude, and violent, and that, to prevent a bad influence on your own children (and to avoid the hassle of hearing the rudeness yourself), you can have nothing more to do with her, or them, until this nonsense is firmly corrected.
Afterwards, follow up your words with decisive actions - avoid walking with her, even to the point of crossing the street to walk on the other side, or simply walk to school on the next block (the very best option).
Beyond that, don't belittle yourself by engaging in anything else - absolutely no arguments, no exchanges of words, no spreading gossip about the situation, and so on. Just avoid the situation entirely and go on with your own life.
2006-09-27 22:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dwight S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could tell the school but try to remain anonymous and suggest the school are more general about the rules they set instead of targeting the behaviour of specific children. If the problem persists then you could maybe remind the school who the culprits are. Never the less, this sounds like the responsibility of the parents and unfortunately this is an increasing theme within our society. You may even want to tell the parents about this problem but I doubt they would listen or change thier methods of upbringing. Try ignoring this filth and avoiding them at all costs if all else fails. Good luck.
2006-09-27 22:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by mick241602 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is difficult for you but it is a clear case of anti-social behaviour and is setting a bad example for your children. You could try and keep away from them or talk to the either the school or the local Anti-social behaviour team (it could be run by the police or the local council) who may be able to take action. There is always the risk that the parents find out where the complaint came from and that would potentially make things more difficult for you and your children.
2006-09-27 22:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the kids are doing it on school property then yes tell the school. Other wise if they say something to your kid you can always try to tell the parents that you will call child services because the children are getting neglected. I wouldnt actually do it but it might scare them enough. Actually call if you know for sure there is a reason for child services to be involved
2006-09-27 22:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first mistake right here's that you're going to choose criminal representation so so that you could save up some funds to get an lawyer that could actually help you with this.... you could not provide up battling on condition that he has a heritage of being abusive... He ought to likely be abusing your babies.... you truly do opt to get baby protecting amenities in contact right here ..... that's horrifying.
2016-12-06 07:18:11 · answer #11 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋