Most women say personality, but when you walk up to a woman in a club, they automatically judge on looks. (and therefore walk away!! lol)
Honest answers only please!
2006-09-27 21:46:26 · 31 answers · asked by i_look_to_my_eskimo_friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think 1st impressions do count, you have to be attracted to someone to want to get to know their personality further.....
2006-09-27 21:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a mixture of both. If a woman walks away from you in the club, it may be the way you approached her. Honestly, we all check out the looks, but its not everything. You wouldn't want a nice looking guy with a jacked up attitude. A lot of women will deal with a man that not gorgeous if he's nice and knows how to treat her right. There are shallow women that wouldn't give u a chance if you don't look a certain way. Chances are that you don't need that type of woman in your life anyway.
2006-09-28 04:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by cutecookieus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks is the easiest way to judge a person, it does not require brains to decipher nor does it require intellegience to decide if a person is good-looking. Girls in the club are not that serious about finding a lifetime partner, but rather someone to hang out for the night, thus they don bother to look into the character and inner beauty of a guy.
But if you are talking about girls looking for guys to spend a lifetime with, girls look for personality, cos it is long-lasting and genuine.
2006-09-28 05:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by riffee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say both are important, i wouldn't be very nice if you was with someone and felt they had a great personality, but didn't want to be seen out with them because of the way they look!!!
I think if you know someone and don't find them that attractive but become Friends with them and find their a great person, then you can start to see them in a different way.
Sometimes love is blind and you only see what you want to.
I suppose it depends on the situation of how you meet them.
2006-09-28 04:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are what attract a woman, personality is what keeps her. Each woman has her own idea of what's attractive though, it could be anything from a nice smile to a cute butt, if you can find a way to attract her other than looks that'll work too, my boyfriend attract me not through looks but by being absolutely the most charismatic person I've ever met.
2006-09-28 04:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being perfectly honest in a situation like a club - you're gona be judged on looks !
Personality really only overrides looks when you know the person quite well before you meet them - it can happen that you like someone so much as an individual that the looks dont matter
I once got on really well with a guy that I delt with through where I worked - we chatted for hours on the phone and when we met up - he was no where near my type - but it didnt matter as I held him in such high regards - we ended up dating for nearly 3 years.
So depending on the situation - it can be either
2006-09-28 05:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks does matter and any woman telling you it dont, IS A FU*CKIN LIER! But if you got looks and NO personality or your personality is a bit, well off putting, then you got no chance. We do like our men to av abit of grounding in their personalities and not just about their looks.
Men who's personality is revolved around looks also has NO personality. And its a shame, but the example you gave is correct. If an "UGLY" guy came up tome in a club, i might not give him the chance to chat me up, whereas, if i had known this "UGLY" guy, then i woulda let him talk to me and i woulda seen what he was about in that respect, we are judgemental,but then so are guys. i reckon, without being sexist,that guys are more likely to chat a woman up cause they like what they see more than wanting to get to know a girl cause of their personality.
Humans do judge, its wrong, but its life.
2006-09-28 04:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe some women don't like to be approached at clubs.
a bad personality can make a hot guy turn gross very quickly. but personality transcends looks--well, usually. physical attraction has to exist too, i must admit.
the bottom line is, i have to be interested in you beyond you opening your mouth.
2006-09-28 04:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by woodpecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is in a night club its usually a one night stand thing so you have to go on looks you havent got time to go on anything else. If I had the opportunity to get to know someones personality then that would be my deciding factor, and their smile.
2006-09-28 04:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
club women are looking for a lay, thus preppie guys. When looking for a relationship, women want personality (perferably not really bad looking though) but definetly more lient there.
I'm a woman
2006-09-28 04:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me its personality - Ive dated really good looking guys in the past that turned out to be jerks - I go for personality all the time now
2006-09-28 04:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋