I have been married for five years ,almost five years.
I dont feel i have to have a baby.I didnt get marry coz of baby.
By the way am 30 years old woman.Yesterday I met a friend & she asked me : Whats wrong with u?U r getting old , go & have one.Since i met her im thinking WHAT I HAVE TO DO?
Am not ready yet , & my husband doesnt mind.
Am getting old? Will it be late in next 2 years?
2006-09-27 21:43:07 · 19 answers · asked by behnoush_k_1976 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just because your friend is happy having children doesn't mean you have to have any. My mum had me when she was 38 and she is a great mum. Don't let anyone pressure you into it you have pleantly of time.
I had my daughter at 21. I'm glad i had her when I did but I also wish I had lived my life a bit first. Do it when your ready.
2006-09-27 21:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by ccskitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to have a baby yet then don't. Don't let other people tell you what you should do. Starting a new life is a great thing and you want to make sure you are ready to be a mother until that child grows up. You don't want to rush into it. Pray about it. Wait until you are fur sure ready because a child will change your whole life around. 30 is definitely not too old.
2006-09-28 05:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be really hard for you after two years, you'll already be 42 years old when your child is 10 years old, did you ever thought of that.. you might change your mind when you get pregnant, because there's always this strong bond between the women and her baby.. as what i know, womens who are pregnent feel so happy, you will really feel amazed when you start feeling the a baby kick and feel so happy about or even when the baby move. Babies are the cutest creatures in the world.. try to hold a baby you might change you're mind when you see how innocent and cute they are..
2006-09-28 04:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, u re getting old for having babies.from medical point u have to have babies before u re 30 - it's the best age. starting from 30 risk of having kids with some genetical distortion is higher - for instance down syndrome risks goes up to 30% after 30 and tp 50 % after 35 (well, finnish medical survey). and also even that i LOVE children and i have 3 (i had all of them before 30) but now im 36, i wouldn't mind to have more babies, but i absolutely don't have any energy. little kids require a lot of energy and devotion, when u re older u want just to enjoy peaceful serene life. so if i still hadn't got any kids by now i doubt if i ever would have. my suggestion u have to start now , your biological clock is ticking. imagine yourself 50 years old, old and wrinkly and with no kids? what if your hubby leaves u for someone younger? with whom will u be left? i can't imagine how miserable life in old age is without kids.
2006-09-28 04:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children just for the sake of time is a bad idea. If your not ready, then your not ready. Dont let others influence you on such a life changing event, not just for you but your husband and family.
Besides There are women in their mid-40's having children,
2006-09-28 06:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by nysmarksilfen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them get to you. I'm 33 and just had my first baby three months ago. The pregnancy was not planned. I had things to do, places to go and a business to run. I'm not upset that I had my son at all but it is a complete lifestyle change! You're the only one who can make a decision on your life that's as big as having a baby. Tell the rest of the world to BUTT OUT!
2006-09-28 05:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 30? Nah not getting too old. With medicine the way it is today, women as old as 50 are having kids. Don't let others pressure you into having a child. Let that course be decided by yourself and your husband.
2006-09-28 04:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Night_Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sons at age 34 and 36. It can be done.
My sister never thot to have kids...she was content being a career girl and no one questioned her. She said if it happens, it happens. Just one advice...go get a check up and make sure you can get prego. If you wait to find out if everything works ok, you might be too late and be sorry if you do decide to have kids later.
2006-09-28 04:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it! When the feeling comes (about having a child), you and your husband will know. I have been married for 15 years (today, 28th). We waited for 6 years before we had our daughter. Nobody pushed us into having a child; it just felt right.
2006-09-28 04:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it is never to late. if you are not ready don't do it. you will be able to give the child a better life if you wait till you want it. and if you don't want one now then wait until you are ready. not everyone is on the same schedule and want baby's just because it is the thing that you do when you are young.
2006-09-28 04:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋