Say your a guy & married to a bisexual girl. You satisfy her 100% as a man, but you can NEVER satisfy her with the joys of feminine sexuality because your not an attractive girl...your a guy. So how can you ever feel that you satisfiy her fully?
It's different with two straight people because if she only likes penis & she's with you, there's no need to find another guy to have sex with since they all have the same thing. (keep in mind, your relationship is great, so there really is no reason for her to leave.)
Other men are taller, shorter, have more muscles or leaner, or a different race, but it's still a guy. For the most part you have what they have. Where as a bisexual girl can't get the joys of femininity from you because your a dude. She will ALWAYS desire the female body that you can't provide unless you allow her to cheat or have an open relationship, which is hardly a relationship.
So how can a straight person be with a bisexual knowing your not enough for them?
2006-09-27 21:27:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wouldn't it be better and more fair if bisexuals just married other bisexuals?
2006-09-27 21:27:54 · update #1
not_prfik... - Satisfy meaning to the most reasonable degree. Clearly there's always at least a super tiny percent of not being satisfied, which makes us human.
2006-09-27 22:02:50 · update #2
hybriddym... - Clearly a bisexual person has more sexual needs than a straight person. A striaght person have an easier time letting go of the other potential people of the opposite sex they could be with (becasue the person their with is of the ossosite sex), than a bexual person who has to let go of another sex and gender entirely. It's irresponsable to say it's exactly the same thing.
2006-09-27 22:06:37 · update #3
zara3 - That sounds great, but lest be realistic. If a woman has had such INCREDIBLE sex and love with girls in the past, that she's been effected by femininity in this way greatly, she can not and will not forget it. No matter how great a guy would be to her, there is NO subsitute for a real woman. And the girl this guy is with would begin to crave it, miss it, want it, more and more. Sure, she may love the guy deeply, but that doesn't erase her other desires and wants.
Again, much different than a striaght couples relationship even though their's other people of the opposite sex that look great, they're still the opposite sex, which is what you already have at home.
2006-09-27 22:24:07 · update #4
~▼Speciou... λ Neurotica... - Clearly it's not ALL about sex with same sex couples. My point is there are important things in the same sex that bisexual girls miss, both sexual and non-sexually related, that a guy doesn't possess.
2006-09-28 05:51:22 · update #5
tjnstloui... - Interesting answer. Obviously marriage isn't only about sexual satisfaction, etc. Point is, a female/female relationship has important elements to it, both sexual & non-sexual, that a guy doesn't possess. If the bisexual girl has had incredibly intimate relationships on ALL levels with girls in the past (not just sexual), that will be missed greatly once she marries a man.
I dissagree that marriage is about compromises. It's only about that if you want it to be. I think a GOOD Marriage is about getting what you want AND need, the right way.
If ones marriage is only about compromises & not getting what you want, then the marriage only suppresses the two involved & thats not good. You aren't being 100% of who & what you are.
Marriage is suppose to bring out the BEST in you in every way, not suppress you. & Bisexuals are only suppressing who & what they are by getting married because they're compromising the wonders of a sex/gender that they grew to desire.
2006-09-28 06:04:50 · update #6
I once was engaged to a man who defined himself as bi-sexual. He was serious about me (a woman) and wanted to explore the field of men. He was also very conflicted about the whole thing having been raised with the traditional ideals of nuclear family. We ended up breaking up because while I loved him enough to share him with someone special that could fulfill the other part of his needs, I could not live with the potential consequences and heartache entailed in him playing the field as a gay man.
2006-09-27 21:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by pleasureW 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You would have to trust that you satisfy them just like in any other relationship..just because a person is bi doesn't mean that they have to have both to be completly satisfied. It just means they can be happy with either sex. A person that is bi should have a regular relationship, just like a straight person. For example a straight woman might find many different men attractive but that doesn't mean that she gets with all of them. She stays with one. If a person wants an "open relationship" then they just want to be with multiple people. But that's not narrowed down to bisexual or straight people.
2006-09-28 04:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by hybriddyme 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She made the choice to marry a man when she was well aware she is bisexual. Marriage isn't only about sexual satisfaction, its about developing a oneness between two people.
Not all marriages are monogamous so if yours isn't, then the obvious is to encourage her to have sexual relationships with women.
But realistically, that probably isn't going to work because you are already questioning yourself.
I would ask her why she married you. Marriage is about compromises its not about getting everything thing you want but getting what you need. Just like everything else in life.
I suspect that her general satisfaction with you as her life partner is worth putting her sexual feelings for women aside.
2006-09-28 08:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your more worried about trust
and her running off with someone else
if you show her, love and that you trust her
that will never make her leave
every one else said it there is no way you could satisfy a women completely that might be true but you can try
But it might help you if you think of your self as a women when playing with her and she might get some more satisfaction the main difference between the sexxes, women make love with passion men have sex to un load
Show her you care when you have sex and she will love you for ever it dose work
2006-09-28 05:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They chose you, either they were sexually satisfied by what you do or they found your other qualities more important than sex. Being bisexual doesn't mean you're insatiably horny, it just means you're open to different sexual encounters.
2006-09-28 05:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your watching too much sex video. Try watching Gone with the Wind. Bet you, you will satisfied!
2006-09-28 07:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. There's no competition between you and a female.
It's a lose/lose situation for you, and a win/win for her (them).
For so-called "bisexuals", it's ALL about sex when it comes to same-sex sex.
2006-09-28 06:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never satisfy a woman totally no matter who you are.
2006-09-28 04:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You rationalize you way out. Now say goodbye.
2006-09-28 04:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by super stud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
give it to them both ways
2006-09-28 04:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋