Why am I still single?

Question

I am not bad looking, work out.
Educated, smartie-pants.
Have a job I like, pretty well-paid.
Passionate, positive.
25, climbing to the peak of my sexual life.
Not a slut, not a nun.
Why am I still single?
I seem to have a problem of wanting to go to fast in a relationship, dating (especially multiple dating) is such a strange concept to me. How do you become intimate with someone and yet not fall in love and want to be in a love (serious) relationship? I've tried holding off the sexual part of it, never works. How do you meet the right guys at the right time?

Answer 1

Its simple. You need to understand that love happens at its own pace. Dont try to push things forward before their time. Take it slow with a guy and always date more than one guy at a time. I mean it.

Answer 2

You cannot find true love multiple dating, you do not go out looking for it, it is a magical thing that happens and if it happens, it happens. There is that special person out there for you somewhere, it just has not happened but it will.

Smart Choices is what it is called. What is your benchmark?
You say you are educated, smartie pants, but that only sets you up for a career.

You need to tap into your emotions and find out who you are first and foremost.

25 and climbing to the peak of your sexual life. I do not think so. You have not even experienced good sex, because you are yet to experience love.

You have heard the saying that life begins and 40.
That is because we are then most comfortable with our bodies and sex can be a truly remarkable thing, but I will not discuss that anymore because that is a very personal thing between me and my partner.

What are your needs? What do you want in a Man? Does he have to be a whitecollar, blue collar worker or CEO of a company?

I feel you are going round it the wrong way. I personally feel these speed dating Journeys are full of people with no self confidence, shyness or on the other hand a good time on the pisse and a good fluck at the end of the evening. Not a good thing to do. Not a safe thing to do.

You have to think of recreational aspects in your life. It is a proven fact that most people get depression, drink booze, do drugs, gamble etc because they have not decided to take time out for themselves and undertake some form of rec activity.

You could join groups out there that can stimulate your senses and where you can also make friends and thru them meet new people. Things like small drama, choirs, tennis, squash, bowling, craft, speechmasters, polo clubs, yacht clubs etc. Pisse the nightclubs and the Speed dating off, cos you are heading in the wrong direction. The word is your Oyster.

Good Luck for the future

Answer 3

First, relax. Take your time. Don't worry about marriage and don't rush into it.

If you are a churchgoer try to meet someone at church with values similar to your own. Aim for friendship first. If you want a marriage you want your partner to have values at least comparable to your own, and you need to bring values to a marriage.

All of the things you mention are positives in seeking a life partner, but nice people who aren't necessarily great looking do manage to get married and have happy lives.

In marriage and relationships, as well as drinking alcohol, it is endurance, not speed, that counts.

When you meet a man you like, try to start by just being friends. A good friendship can blossom. It's okay to have several men you date.

I wouldn't try to meet a potential husband in a bar. You might wind up with a real loser that way.

You sound like you have the right general idea on what you are looking for. You make me wish I was about 27 to 32 years old and single so I could check you out.

Unfortunately (for me--and maybe for you) I'm 65 and married and not likely to change status any time in the future. I've been where you are, however, in the male equivalent, and I've experience the same frustration you are expressing.

Don't worry about it. Live your life and things will work out.

Answer 4

We havnt met yet ;)

Hard to tell with the info given...but sounds like you have an involved life...so could be that guys assume you are self involved or just too involved with life. But im not an expert, just an outside guess. Also if good looking that can intimidate alot of guys from even making the move...with exception of the players.

I dont get out much myself, therefore its hard to meet women, so I feel your pain...As well, I fall quick too....cant answer that at all, it hasn't served me well so far. :) My answer...assume I wont...no disappointment. :)

I think thats a question all of us singles have in mind, even recently single its more-so an issue, in my opinion.

Good luck though

Answer 5

Broaden your horizons, date people outside of your social circle, put out an ad online, haunt a new bar. Pace yourself. If you find yourself rushing, set a reasonable schedule for yourself. No nookie till the second date. no more than one date a week until Date 4. No talking about commitment until the 10th date. If you know your limits you'll be able to relax and enjoy the courtship more.

Answer 6

Your scaring the men off by wanting to move too fast in a relationship

Answer 7

Because you really don't want to be and the longer your single, the more your likely to stay that way. Independence may be more YOU. Keep socializing, move in different circles because I could be wrong!

Answer 8

u cant have a mate just like that have some friends and if they are good enough for u and caring and u too have the same feelings, THEN u r ready.
best of luck

Answer 9

Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.

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Answer 10

Sweetheart...give it time and patience. True love will come when it is the right time. Take time for yourself in the meantime. Love yourself as you want to love and want to be loved.