I always work. I don't have time for myself. I am stuck in the cycle of working too much and working too long. Is it because I love the money that comes with it?Or I was just trying to hide my insecurities? Do people derive their sense of worth from what they do instead of who they are?
2006-09-27 20:57:55 · 13 answers · asked by HeiglLee 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I absolutely agree with Shain S. That ultimately it's a material and spiritual issue. Many times, I have to sacrifice the other to keep the one I want and vice versa. On the other hand, I also agree with Mike ND, I don't really enjoy my vacation, I still receive call from clients asking for my service while I am on vacation, that's because I advertised my service in local newspaper right before I went for vacation! I feel good telling people about what I do but I don't really tell people who I am, what I like, what I am passionate about, what I aam concerned most and most importantly, what do I really want for myself (ultimately not money).I must come clean with myself and do some soul searching.
2006-09-28 06:41:35 · update #1
I was a workaholic. Somebody once stunned me by observing that a workaholic is like an alcoholic: running away from something. [I'm also an "Adult Child Of Alcholics", some of whom experience compulsive/addictive behaviors like alcoholism, workaholism, gambling, etc.] My advice is to try and identify what thing(s) you're avoiding (perhaps intimate personal relationships?) before you end up completely isolated from family, friends, and co-workers as I've become. [This may necessitate some counseling/therapy.]
My entire self-esteem is derived from work, which seems to be a common trait (even a virtue) in a highly competitive society like ours, especially among males. [As you wisely observe, deriving a sense of worth is the classic battle between the outer / material and the inner / spiritual. Many believe both can be had; I tend to agree with the old wise ones ... recall that both Buddha and Jesus were given a choice between great material / worldly wealth and great spiritual / inner wealth -- not both, for no man can serve two masters.]
Best wishes ... - Shain
2006-09-27 21:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Shain S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong about being workaholic. In your case, I think you rather enjoy what you're doing at work. You rather appreciate yourself for accomplishing what you have to do the way you wanted them. You also appreciate the reward you get from your efforts -- the money you earn. I don't think that giving yourself a break at a time when you think you have something to do at your work -- responsibility -- will enable you to enjoy the break at all. No way. Take a break when you're worry-free about your work. That way, you'll both have peace of mind and an enjoyable pressure-free break.
2006-09-28 07:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously love work.
So WORK around your problem. Its time your little hobbies were resurrected. Your friends from the past - located..soon you will wish you never had to work anymore.
2006-09-28 04:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for some time off. Get a girlfriend or find something you love doing.
2006-09-28 04:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to stop being a workaholic, you've got to really work on that issue.
2006-09-28 04:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me if u really got paid well enough u could afford a vacation hey join the club
2006-09-28 05:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start working less hours and do something you enjoy before you have a nervous breakdown
2006-09-28 03:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sydney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try get a side hobby or join a group or a club.
dat'll get ur ming off da work
2006-09-28 04:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by AsianLion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try smoking weed that will mellow you right out lol
2006-09-28 04:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzylilhippiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go cold turkey....be idle for two weeks and see if it changes your perspective
2006-09-28 04:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋